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I've been searching for the answer to this question for a long time. When people lead someone on (flirt with them to some degree, making the other person think they are interested, when they in reality they are not), do you think they do so on purpose because they are looking for attention, or do they do it simply out of naivety and ignorance?

I used to think that when people did this, it was on purpose. That they were just selfish people who wanted attention and go as far as they could to get it, until they were forced to back off because the other person made a move and forced their hand. To a degree I still feel this is true and it might be the case for some people.

However, just the other night, I learned a lesson via a female friend of mine. Me and a few friends were at the club drinking and dancing. One of the girls who is very attractive at one point had this guy dancing with her. She eventually followed him to the bar and spent at least an half hour talking to him and letting him put his arm around her and stuff. The rest of us found this strange because we knew she had a guy who she is already sort of dating and she's really not the type to cheat. When we left the bar, she informed us that she gave the guy a fake number and had simply asked him for one dance which led to everything else. At this point we all sort of rolled our eyes and said that she asked for it then. The point is that she just had a complete lack of understanding of how the male mind works and figured her innocent request for a dance would not lead to anything else. It wasn't that she just felt like absorbing this guys attention all night only to blow him off later (or maybe she did).

So anyway, what do you guys think. For the most part, do you think people lead others on because they just don't see what they are doing, or is it that they do it o purpose because they like the attention they get?