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27F, I’ve been on and off for years. Most of the time, the guys always sent the first message. However, the guys that usually made the first move I didn’t like back or vice versa. For a few months, I’ve been on bumble. Guys have replied and I met up with a guy for the first time from bumble last week but I didn’t feel anything. A lot of women have said they had more success in dating when they approached the guy first but I’m still having no luck. I figured maybe being the initiator versus apps where guys can make the first move would change my luck but not the case. When I ask my mother why I’ve had no success she says I just haven’t met the right guy and that gets me so livid. When I was told this at 21 that’s one thing but from the looks of it I’ll be hearing this at 40. Im not a confident person but really don’t think im terrible looking, most women seem to get approached by guys and I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d want to date. If I would have went out with other guys that took initiative so far, I would have settled and been miserable. Is that fair to me or the guy? No. Why can I achieve everything I’ve had but not find someone I like that likes me back? I’m trying bumble and no different from when the guys messages first.