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My boyfriend told me about a situation and I'm having trouble seeing it from his perspective. I'd appreciate your feedback.

He says a woman "took advantage" of him. In the past, when he was with another woman, he was friends with a woman who he admits he was attracted to. His girlfriend was on tour at the time, so out of town. He says he had one drink at a party and felt messed up. He says he may have been drugged.

He says he went to his friend's house because he was "scared". He said he doesn't remember anything else. The next morning, she said "you were so out of it, I had to drink a bunch to not feel like I was taking advantage of you". He freaks out and says she raped him. His girlfriend I guess believed him because they moved on (he went on to sleep with 2 more women during their monogamous relationship). No one else believed it was rape. Their mutual friends saw it from her perspective (she felt humped and dumped).

First of all, I believe men can be sexually assaulted by women (inappropriate touching, sexually exploited, etc). I don't think men are animals. BUT in this case, why did he show up at HER place? And she didn't feed him booze and drugs. How is she held responsible? If a guy I really liked who also flirted with me made a move on me when he was drunk, I wouldn't think he was in a vulnerable state.

He has acquainted the situation to a male friend of mine trying to penetrate me in my sleep. This man and I had no romantic history. There was no suggestion of romance. I was visiting from out of town and stayed over. When I woke up to him on top of me, I left and wandered the streets of New York in shock (and almost jumped on the subway tracks, I was in such a state).

Did this woman take advantage of him? Did we experience something similar? Am I being a dick? My emotional response is FUCK THAT! HE'S A CHEAT AND BLAMES THIS WOMAN 😡 but maybe I'm missing something... or it's not rape and I'm so pissed he would compare our experiences. Thoughts?

Girls, have you experienced this?
Guys, what am i doing wrong?

It seems like the guys who are the most straightforward are players or assholes!

I rarely reject anyone, cos i like to give people a chance. But at the same time, i never ask anyone out, but i do flirt with them
And all i get is guys staring at me, but i assume they aren't interested cos they're friendlier towards other girls.

One guy, was act hot and cold the entire year. He was being really friendly, the next day, being a cold unfriendly asshole and ignoring me when i say hi. Then getting angry when i talk to other guys. He also tells his friends not to talk to me, probably cos it makes him jealous. Then i find out that he has a girlfriend that he's in love with!!

Yet he tells his uncle "i really like Keziah, but i dunno, cos i tried saying hi to her but she didn't seem interested, i dunno what to do!"
But i dont see ANY effort coming from him, except from staring at me. He also tells other people (who im friends/aquaintances with) that he thinks im beautiful etc.
But it's really shitty, cos he has a girlfriend, i feel like he wants to mess with people's feelings!

Another guy, I went on a date with yesterday, he got only £10 out the cash point, took me to McDonald's and then got mad when i wanted a latte for £1.60, rather than a 50p orange juice. Then we went to the pub, and made me pay for the drinks "cos he has no money left and it was ONLY fair". Then he took me down a dodgy road and insisted that we sit on a bench, then he said "what do you think of couples who kiss and make out on public benches?" and i said that "its not my type of thing". Then i sat on another bench away from him and he called me a bitch, then i said "ok bye". I wasn't that interested in the guy, but i thought i might as well give him a chance. Also, i spent more money on him, than he did on me! I think he only wanted to use me!