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My boyfriend is really really into me... and we really like each other and we're good people, but I am beginning to wonder if we are just too different.

He does not drink, at all. I like to go out and have fun, but I'm not a partier. I my future I'd like to go out to a nice little restaurant and wear a cocktail dress and drink a glass of wine with my husband. He will not drink AT ALL.

That and he does not like fancy anything. He doesn't like fancy restaurants or dressing up. He dislikes the idea of having a lot of money.

He's super smart and is going to have a good job, but doesn't want to make a lot of money. He also wants me to be a stay at home mom.. and I can't really imagine anything sadder for my future right now. We are both smart people (he's getting his PhD and I might get mine) and I just can't see myself sitting around at home with kids. I hate the idea of cooking for other people.

He's super nice though, he said that he can cook and I can clean dishes (which I love to do). Idk, he's so willing to compromise. He really loves me, but I just don't know if I can get passed myself.

What do I do? I grew up pretty much italian where we wine and dine our hearts out as a family.. my family doesn't know that he doesn't drink and I'm sure they'll have a lot of red flags...

Also, it's not that I'm not attracted to him... I just don't find him to be super super attractive.

Nonetheless, he has an amazing personality and I think he really loves me. I just have some apprehensions. He's been talking about marriage lately.. and about how he wants to raise his kids and he thinks I'd be a great mom and blah blah. That makes me so nervous! What do I do? I don't want to break it off with him, but I'm worried that our differences might be enough to make me feel like I can't fully love him as much as he deserves... and deserves the best.

Assume Girl A & B are twins. They are both stunningly beautiful, not stupid, not bitchy, charming, flirty, fun, etc. They have both dated and had sex with one guy, and they were both madly in love, but now they're both over it. Now . . .

Girl A has since coped by not placing much weight on sex. She waited 3 months before having sex in an attempt to weed out guys who just wanted to get in her pants, but she saw how badly that failed. Now, if she's just not interested in a guy, she stops talking to him, and if he doesn't get the point, she spells it out clearly for him. Yet, if she's really interested in and attracted to a guy, she's not afraid to take things sexual if he feels ready and comfortable enough to go there too.

Girl B coped a little differently. After her ex broke her heart, and she got hurt, she realized that 3 months before sex is way too soon. Instead, she now has a firm one year rule. No sex until one year of dating. Even after one year has passed, unless she's convinced that the guy genuinely loves her, cares about her, want to eventually marry her, and would make a great husband and father, she won't feel comfortable or ready to have sex. Plus, sex has to be very special. She's always had a fantasy to have sex for the first time when its freshly snowing. The first snow to hit the ground would be symbolic of their first time being intimate, and it would be a moment they would both remember.

My question is two-fold, because I've been reading and hearing a lot lately from men:

1. Given the choice to start a relationship with both (as in, not just for the sex, but because you would want to be with the girl long-term, not necessarily till death do you part, but not some quick summer fling thing), which one would you prefer?

2. If you prefer one girl over the other (i.e., Girl A over Girl B, or Girl B over Girl A), is the girl you didn't pick pretty much out of the picture because you see her so negatively so as to render her undatable? (i.e., not worth the time or energy to deal with the issues she has with sex, or no way I would ever date someone who was so easy or would have sex so soon).