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Met a guy at work who would make me laugh and I found very attractive. We'd flirt all the time but he had an on and off relationship with a girl he'd been with for 4 years. They had a baby and ended the relationship, had a one night stand and had another child.
Before I went away for holiday, he had started visiting where I work after having leave for an op. he was flirting with me heavily and took my number.
When I went away I had a bad experience with a guy which wasn't consented. When I got back I wasn't myself. Sex wasn't very important to me.
We met several times, he lives quite a while away so I would stay over but nothing happened till the 3rd night and it was all on my terms. To begin with it was just sex and I knew that. But it grew and we became more intimate in other ways. He told me he loved me very early which worried me but after giving him a chance to take it back I didn't think about it much.
I realised majority of the relationship was staying indoors eating junk food watching films and listening to him talk about his ex. It was hard because they were still in contact as they'd had children. However I felt like I was a shrink rather than his gf.
8 months later I decided to go on a break so he could get his thoughts together - his ex is on cocaine and is sleeping around with the kids in her place. He had every reason to be worried.
Recently we met up to talk as the break wasn't helping due to is still working together. It was clear he's not over his ex, which was an issue raised early in the relationship. He didn't know much about me. I asked him questions which he couldn't answer. Yet he was saying everything is been feeling for the last few months. It was confusing.
My worry is that I'm a rebound and that even though he sometimes seems like he cares, I mean nothing to him.
I suggested friends with benefits after sleeping with him (after which we had a deep conversation) as I don't want to lose him as a friend but I don't want to be fucked ov

A few months ago when school started, i had a few classes with this guy that i eventually developed a crush on.
After a while, he started pursuing me and would stop by my room with his friends a few nights in a row and I could definitely tell he liked me, and he asked for my number and social networking. At this point everything was good, but our conversation would always be kind of dull, but i knew it was just cause we didn't know each other and didn't really have anything to talk about.
after a while, he stopped coming to my room, but we would but we saw each other in class and he would kind of flirt with me.
After some time we started having movie nights and would kiss a little, and everything was fine, but i still felt like i just didn't really know him like i wanted to.
So, over holiday break i didn't hear anything from him at all, so I just decided he didn't like me anymore and to let it go, but when we got back to school, he started flirting with me really heavily in class again. I asked if he was interested in me cause its hard for me to read him and he said he's interested and he just can't read me at all.

Now Im just confused because I feel like we don't know eachother and i really want to get to know him because I really like him and i want him to want to spend more time with me. I know once we break that barrier that things will be okay, its just that unless we are in person he doesn't put any effort into wanting to hang out or texting me. I always have to mention it to him. he's just really nonchalant about it.
I still want him to come to visit, i mean he knows where I stay, but then since I know we're really alike i feel like he thinks the same thing, like why don't i just go to his place.
Point of the question, is should I keep trying to get to know him, or does it seem like he's not interested anymore?
im confused since all my friends tell me to drop him but i really feel we could work out, i just want to get to know him more :p

I am talking about my guy friend.
Earlier, when the conversation used to get towards his ex, his mood used to drop, but last night, I asked a question related to his ex. He didn't avoid the question. He answered it, and his mood didn't drop as well. He continued flirting and laughing with me. Is it a good sign?