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I always felt like "tough love" was more of a child rearing technique as opposed to something that can be used with adults or your partner/spouse. I was inclined to ask this question after a phone conversation with a friend and she said that her and her boyfriend give eachother "tough love" in situations to help one another grow. My initial reaction was that it sounded foolish and sounded more like a parent-child relationship but after really looking into it, it made some sense. For example: your partner is bad with money, so you talk to them often about their spending habits and get them to feel bad enough to want to save money. Even if you hurt their pride and make them feel crappy, in a way you're helping them, because you're shaming them into WANTING to save money which ultimately helps them in the long run. I think it's a good idea actually. It's out of love but it's not the typical loving sweet response that one is used to. I guess there are certain lines to be crossed too and one partner can grow resentful to the other partner, but I feel like a couple must be strong to be able to allow this kind of technique.
1.) What do you think?
2.) Is this crossing the line?

I was watching an episode of Will & Grace when a scene came on. One of Grace's boyfriends dumped her because they thought she had too close of a friendship with her bestie Will, even though Will is actually gay and has no interest in women. If you never watched the show, Will and Grace lived together through most of it. But would you feel uncomfortable if your spouse/SO always hung out and talked with someone who was the opposite sex BUT was also gay?

This question is for women to answer, as well, if you're boyfriend's best friend was a lesbian, would it bother you? I'm not asking if them BEING gay/lesbian is a problem, but that their best friend is a member of the opposite sex. That means they go out all the time, go shopping, talk on the phone, text, SnapChat, gossip, and hang out all of the time without you around. Basically, if they aren't with you, they are with them. Would this annoy you?

I only ask because we talk about spouses/SO/partners not going out with members of the opposite sex one on one that they aren't in a relationship with, but would their sexual orientation make you feel any different? And if so, why?

Just in case you still don't understand the question:

Example 1: John's girlfriend Susan has a best friend named Gary, but Gary is gay.

Example 2: Kristy's boyfriend James has a best friend Maggie, but Maggie is a lesbian.