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I started dating this guy recently. We've kissed and been on a date and both really like each other.

This is a bit about him: He's a total geek. He has a few close friends but other than that, he doesn't like any other people in his school. So I guess he's kind of antisocial (except when it comes to his friends). He has very little experience with girls and dating. He easily tells me his weak points (eg, when we're talking about video games, if he cried at some point during the game he tells me) and he says he's very comfortable around me. Also he told me that he has social anxiety disorder. He's in concert band with me so I see him at least once a week.

This is my dating past: I'm also pretty inexperienced with dating, but not as much as he is. I've had one boyfriend before. We didn't get to hang out very often and we didn't text or talk on the phone or anything very often either. When we did communicate electronically, it was because he was horny. Then for two weeks he didn’t even bother to text me once (although I never talked to him either) and then we broke up.

This is my current problem: This new guy hardly ever texts me first. When I do text him, he usually replies straight away which is nice. According to what I’ve read (psychology articles, Cosmopolitan articles, stuff on the Internet, etc) I’m supposed to make him miss me and want me by waiting for him to text me first. But the last time I waited (when I was waiting for my ex, as I said above) it ended badly. So what should I do? I want to text him and it’s not like I’d smother him or anything. I usually start a text conversation with this guy about 3-4 times a week (and we’re pretty much going out). Still it would be nice if he talked to me first more often. Will he lose interest if I always text first? But if I wait and never text first, I’m afraid he’s just not going to bother texting me and lose interest that way.

What should I do? What are your personal experiences with this kind of stuff? Should I do what Cosmo tells me? xD;; What if he never texts me? Thanks!

I was doing okay alone. I feel a bit lonely sometimes, and tried to go out with new people and give them a chance but there's no attraction. I feel like if I try to date people, I will just be empty to them, I can't give them any love, because I don't know anyone as good as my ex, or anyone who I was as close to. We basically lived together because I saw him everyday and now he's dating someone new so its very painful. I want to be in a relationship too, and he wants me to be happy, but how we broke up was more by pain and exhaustion than that we ended it because we didn't have the energy to be our best to each other anymore and he tried and thought he failed and I tried and thought I failed. He got really easily agitated or annoyed and I got really depressed. I feel like I've only been having 2 types of guys around me since then :guys who are nice to me who I have no attraction to, guys who I'm attracted to and get along with who are taken or otherwise unavailable. I feel really lonely if I continue to cave myself in and lingering on my ex and not being open to new things but I've been double burned. I liked this friend of mine and he said he liked me too and we got along well and hang around a lot, but then he had sex with me and it wasn't because he wanted to be with me, he just wanted sex. He told me that later, not before. I feel kind of betrayed by everyone, including my ex who was still talking about making things work and then a few weeks later he was sleeping at some girls place already. Like I don't know who to trust anymore. I can't sleep with my friend anymore even tho I'm lonely and want to just feel close to someone, because he doesn't care about me that way and I lost the person who did care about me and loved me the way I wanted. I feel sad my friend was using me because he wanted to have sex and saying he likes me and later explaining and excusing himself that he meant like a friend and he was drunk. I really hate all this, I'm super depressed and can't live like this and don't feel like I'd be a good girlfriend to anyone atm, don't feel like anyone could love me that I love back. Its not negative thinking its just the pain from the breakup. I feel betrayed and its so hard to find someone who suits, because its about lifestyle, and getting along, and attraction, its hard to have all those things togethers close to. We basically lived together because I saw him everyday and now he's dating someone new so its very painful. I want to be in a relationship too, and he wants me to be happy, but how we broke up was more by pain and exhaustion than that we ended it because we didn't have the energy to be our best to each other anymore and he tried and thought he failed and I tried and thought I failed. He got really easily agitated or annoyed and I got really depressed. I feel like I've only been having 2 types of guys around me since then :guys who are nice to me who I have no attraction to, guys who I'm attracted to and get along with who are taken or