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Do you think its more important to consider how many people find you attractive, or how attractive they find you(the ones that DO find you attractive)?

ORR, is how attractive you find yourself the most important of all?

For example, would you rate someone as more attractive if you and a lot of people found them fairly attractive or would you rate the person you and only a few other people find very attractive, more attractive?

I think its a mix of the last two; Its important to have confidence, but confidence only goes so far, so you also have to think about how attractive the person you're interested in finds you.

Or do you believe looks should just be ignored?

And not to be mean or anything, but most people that think looks should be ignored, don't find themselves attractive, so I'm kinda biased of their opinions.

or am I just another minority?

i'm just asking this out of curiosity since I experienced this at work out of the blue. some hot ass milf walked in my job today and I was the lucky one to ring her up. this lady was a real bombshell! she was really slim and curvy and you best believe she turned me on all the way.

anyways as I was ringing her up I was starting a natural conversation and along the way she brought up that she was home cooking and she needed some stuff. and as I dismiss her I asked her if she wanted to buy some ice cream for dessert, then out of nowhere I can't believe the words that came out of this lady's mouth! she said...

"no ice cream for me... I'm too fat"

words can't described how turned off I was after that. I mean how can a woman be so insecure!? this lady was not fat at all, her midsection was a lot more slimmer then her hip ratio and she had the ovaries to say she was too fat to eat ice cream. but anyways after that I was so enraged about her lack of confidence but after she walked out and I was able to ground myself back to reality I came to the conclusion that I guess I'm not just a T and A person but I also love confidence in a woman too.

so yea, just like all women (no homo) out there I also find lack of confidence a turn off I guess. I mean it just aggravates me seeing/hearing an extremely attractive woman just be so pessimistic and hard on herself till the point she only sees her flaws in her; especially when some of the flaws they see on themselves aren't even really there like my situation at my job that I explained previously. and lets not forget that a woman who lacks confidence is a red flag from my point of view since most women who lack confidence are most likely perfectionist and are never happy with everything around them period.

but anyways fellas, am I the only man that has this mindset? or do you also find confidence in a woman extremely attractive?