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So, I recently met a really nice girl at an event and we've been texting for a few days and have talked in a sci-fi facebook group she's an admin in. Now from what I understand most of her friends in this group are actually her friends in real life. I'm into geek stuff like sci-fi, comics, video games etc but i'm NOT a nerd and these guys clearly don't like that. However I think it's something she really really like about me. Scrolling up in the group chat shows a lot of them flirt and make comments that she brushes off, but it's largely stopped since I've been in the room and has been replaced with snarky comments towards me. Her and I are slated to actually see each other again and go out next week alone then we're going to a paint ball match in a few weeks with some guys from her comic book group. Anything I should/shouldn't do?

For context, we've known each other since we were like 10. We're both 19 now.

I'm a bit of a shy nerd, and she's a very athletic, outgoing girl. Though we never exactly had a bunch in women interest wise, we're both very open about each other's hobbies, and we're both quite sweet and kind to one another, though we're not afraid to tease or engage in banter.

Recently though, she began to be quite touchy feely with me. It all started with her saying, "Hey, you're one of my best friends I've ever had, and we've known each other since we were kids, do you mind if I hug and peck you on the cheek from now on?" And I thought it was a bit weird, but I didn't deny it.

When seated next to each other, she also tries to deliberately get super close to me. Sometimes so close to the point to where our cheeks are touching. And she comments on how soft my skin is, and I say hers is even softer, and though I see no visible blushing, her skin feels quite warm.

She even does this at the beach... I don't know if it's any different, but we're both almost naked, her in a small bikini, me in swimming trunks so short they're almost a speedo, and she gets super close to me.

I don't know if she likes me but is too shy to say it and is hoping I'll ask her out, or if she's just a nice, touchy feely girl in general, or if we're already dating but I'm too oblivious to notice, but... something must be going on, lol. I don't know.

Don't get me wrong, I don't avoid other guys, and I get along just fine with other guys. But it seems that all my closest friends seem to all be women with the exception of like 2 or 3.

I'm not even necessarily effeminate, not by a long shot, but I'm not "as manly" as American society expects me to be. I don't mind playing sports with a few friends once in a while, but I definitely don't watch sports, and I don't know a lot about them besides a few basic rules. I also couldn't care less for anything car related. Sure, I can fix things around the house, but that's because I kind of have to, not because I'm "trying" to be manly.

My interests all tend to be associated with nerds or with geeks, neither of which are effeminate, but not manly either. Writing, drawing, singing, cooking, playing video games, analyzing TV shows/movies, reading, making comics, swimming, walking for exercise, etc.

This alone probably isn't why I tend to get along better with girls though. The reason is because I'm very expressive of my emotions and like to give people compliments, and among-st other guys this tends to come off as "gay."

Close guy friends also tend to insult each other a lot, and though I can appreciate it in moderation, in my opinion if excessive it can get old and FAST. And the majority of my male friends can't go without saying something like, "Hey what took you so long you fucking cock sucking son of a bitch" when seeing each other. Some may find it genuine and lovely among-st bros, but I was never a fan.

And as such... I get along better with girls, and my closest friends are almost all girls. We tease each other once in a while, but we can also conversate normally and compliment each other as well. Guys often seem to have like an 80% balance of just pure insulting, which turns me off.

Is this a bad thing though?