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My boyfriend is really irritating me. He doesn't seem to try in our relationship. Today, he knew I was being weird on him and he knew why. He said he didn't think I was in the mood for kisses. Could he not try? Could he not try and cheer me up. Tell me he loves me, etc?

He only kept saying, don't be like this. You're down and unhappy. Then he went to bed and said I hope it's all okay tomorrow. I told him it wouldn't be okay if he didn't kiss me. He gave me lots of kisses but he didn't say I love you.

It's not the first time. I always compliment him, tell him why I love him, how much, what I think. He doesn't and if he does it's after I say it.

If he's upset, he closes up and makes me do all the work. And he makes it look like it's all my fault. He does not try in our relationship. I get mad and he gets mad because I nip at him.

A friend of mine told me to be less available, less lovable. Not give him kisses if he doesn't do it. Not say I love you if he doesn't. That it's his problem if he gets angry. That I'll get what I want. But I keep thinking, what if I get a break-up? That's not what I want.

He's a difficult man. Yet, when he's jealous, I explain to him everything in full detail until I know he's better and make sure he knows I want only him. He doesn't do that, he just gets angry at me a deflects.

I am a very shy college girl & it takes a lot of courage for me to even say hi to guys. Last fall I went to some ball games to cheer on one of my friends. Over a few months I kept seeing a guy that I thought was good looking. One day I got the courage to say hi. We couldn't talk long because he had to do 'clean up' duty after the game. About a week later, there was another game & we chatted then. Both of us grinned huge & he shoved his hands in his pockets & looked at the floor. A few weeks after that he said "hows it going" to me. I was up in the bleachers & looked down at him & grinned. Almost immediately he looked away, grinning huge.

Basketball season ended, a new semester began. We became FB friends & continued chatting on/off. Some days, when I hung out in the cafeteria, we would see each other. We would say hi and/or wave/grin huge. A few times I caught him looking at me when I was chatting with my friends. One time he kept glancing at lot when I was chatting with one of my gfs & her boyfriend.

Another time I was chatting with friends & wasn't "looking" for him & I didn't want to see him because I wanted to give up/forget about him. My gfs & I were chatting at a table & one of em said "Isn't that your guy?" I looked & saw him workin on hw. He was facing us, but I never saw him look at me. I didn't look long tho.

I got the courage to ask him to chill, just to get food or something & talk, not a legit date. But I guess I should ask what is classified as a 'real date'? His response while grinning broadly/shoving his hands in his pockets, thumbs out: "I'm sorry, I don't do much besides baseball & school." (Which is true-he doesn't party unless it's summer & he doesn't watch movies or read or chill with friends much during the school year, so I guess I had it coming)

I didn't talk to him much after the fact because I didn't want to bug him. I went to a few baseball games, but didn't cheer because I am so shy. I FBed him good luck & to hit a homer. He replied "i'll try just for u" First time he was up to bat, he smacked one to center field for a single. Luck or...?

Last week of school came; I was walking toward school. A car pulls around the corner & I look up and it was him! He grinned huge & pointed at me like Gary Bertier does in Remember the Titans right before his car crash. I grinned & waved. That same day, I saw him in the cafeteria..we waved. Two days later, I was in the cafeteria finishing up a final for my computer class. I packed up my stuff & headed out when I saw him chatting with his guy friend. We made eye contact & he leaned in toward his friend. I looked away nervous. I risked a glance back & caught him looking at me, still chatting with his friend.

I would initiate almost all the convos. I'm trying not to chat w him so much...which is easy/hard at the same time. I've looked up "flirting signs" online & found that he falls into a few listed...but he also seems to fall under some that say that he is "uninterested". Any tips?