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Me and this guy dated for 5 months everything is going good we waited to have sex. He treats me good. Were taking things slow. But he and the ex wife had split up after 17 years together and were really in a bad place.
We have gotten closer and opened up about what he has done wrong and his faults. We know eachother past good bad whats hurt us whats made us who we are. He is kind and gental with me shows affection. I meet his family spent Christmas with them. And after Christmas he pulled away big time.
when he gets down in the dumps he seems to pull away from everyone and kinda hidses to him self.

We went separate ways for 3 months then we reconnected. He apologized for not being there when i needed him. Said he didn't know why he would disappear on me and he felt really bad about it. I felt he was senser.
He has said more then once he had feeling as cares about me a lot. We have stared hanging out again but almost every time after we do he dissapears on me but says he dosnt want me out of his life.

We’ve been dating a couple months, we said we wouldn’t date other people but he wasn’t ready for relationship yet. He was moving it fast first then slowed us down and discussed his career moves, maybe leaving city for couple months soon.

We aren’t 100% stable in understanding our needs with each other, which has put us on pause a lot and arguments. We finally talked it out. He still wants to date but isn’t quite ready to jump into relationship.

We have gone through a lot and shared so many things. We both have our insecurities. I understand that but I also think it’s bad not to risk and be together and it’s also bad to jump into relationship when we’re not emotionally stable with each other.

Should I give it time (and how long) and let us keep dating and see if we can find stability? Let it go? Or give him an ultimatum?

Any advice would help, thanks.