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Ok let me share my story in short first. I grew up heavilly obese since early childhood. It got to the point where I had over 130kg. As a result I looked utterly asexual and never really had a chance to develop any dating skills to speak of. Well lately I've been putting in a lot aof effort and managed to lost over 40kg. Really improved my physique quite a bit. I feel quite lonely actually and I'd like to go out and meet some girls. But I am at a loss. I have really little to none social skills and very little experience (had sex only once in my whole life). But that's my cross to bear and to deal with. What I am asking is Do I look good enough to be dateble? Or can I expect to be rejected based solely on my physical appareance? Am I ready or should I wait a few more months and put in some more work losing more weight and putting on more muscle before I dive in? Please be honest. I wouldn't ask if I wanted people to spare my feelings.

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Alright. I've heard this asked multiple times and let me clear the air. First off I'm white and married my chocolate lover after divorcing my first wife who was white.

There's a combination of things going on here complicating dating on both sides if it wasn't hard enough.

Alright as always there's general attraction. White men do find black women attractive, but like dating within our own race there are still women who are trailer trash, obese, or whatever we do not like (even if they're white). But there is preference, personally there's nothing sexier than oiling my wife up with a massage and the way her skin shines so beautifully.

Then there's we don't know if u are into us in general, if u even like white guys, if ur open-minded. It's a lot more pressure than asking someone of your race, which is mostly if they are into you not if they can dig your race and are into you.

Your hair just takes getting used to it. As a man in general we don't mess with our hair so much so when I learned all of my wife's rules it was odd but just a learning deal. (She straightens it so I can't touch it, wears this nightcap thing for moisture I hate, and she doesn't wash it as much because of the oils) men do not like weaves... you don't have to have long radiant hair but if you can stay natural.

Ignorance is next on this long list. Some people of any race don't get to meet many people of another culture and so form ideas based on a small percentage then spout their advice as the end all. Make up your own mind.

Aggressive. A lot of women ask to specify this specifically. The norm black Independant woman says things bluntly, and as they are generally. This shocks white people lol. Whites sugar coat and put on facades to each other, so it's shell shock until it's understood it's not aggressive just blatant facts (which takes time and communication).