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My father and I have had issues in our relationship for a long time. He had falsely accused me of domestic violence twice out of anger and spite. The most recent charges where dismissed on Tuesday. While I was dealing with the courts (it took one year), my father's behavior didn't change. He was emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive and threatened to call the police on me every time he was mad at me. He knows that I'm the one with domestic violence dismissals in my record and that he can make a third happen if he wanted to. He's an alcoholic and loses self-control when he's drunk.

Tuesday night, I asked him how he could do this to me. I was hoping all year that he would tell the district attorney the truth, but he never did. He got angry with me when I told him that he betrayed me and then he threatened to call the police again.

We had a session with the family therapist on Wednesday. I told her about his threats and he showed no remorse. The family therapist told him that based on what she's seen, he is battering me and that she's concerned for my safety because no matter what happens, I'll most likely be arrested if the police are called again. She said that she's only comfortable working with us if I move out. She says it's an ethical thing and that she wants to ensure my safety. She says that if I don't move out, she'll continue working with my father, but not me and him together.

People say "just move out" like it's easy to do. I have no resources and no family to help me. While I know that I'm unsafe living with my father, I'm also unsafe living homeless. I think that her trying to force me to move out is extremely unprofessional and that her role is to help us - not force me to become homeless. Am I justified in feeling this way?