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I really like this guy I work with but things are so hot and cold that I can't figure out what's going on. I got the feeling that he's getting over someone because in a few chats, we've both talked about our exes. He showed me a pic of her too and told me stories about their time dating.

We're pretty close now and text, snapchat, goof off at work and now are starting to hangout outside of work or get lunch. We planned a trip, and he couldn't go for financial reasons. I was sad for him because he didn't make other plans to enjoy his vacation he just bummed around at home, so I got him a souvenir that he keeps in his pocket. He invited me to a concert coming up, I invited him for coffee. During that time he said he doesn't date because he's mentally got too much going on. I didn't decide if I wanted to date yet so I thought that was a bit... premature. I never ask anything to warrant his objections so I always feel like he's just talking to himself. In spite of that we stayed out for 2 hours and closed the cafe. In addition, I got confused because two weeks before he talked about asking out this girl to me and a mutual friend who then turned him down. When he told the story he again said he's too "depressed to date".

So I'm confused trying to figure out if he's interested in me, other girls, or wants to date but is still heartbroken. He planned to take me to the city for this concert, and talked about how we'll spend the day exploring, going to museums, and he mentions it and how he's excited. He keeps me updated on his life and even during a hypothetical, he looked me in my eyes and said he could spend the rest of his life with me. I haven't mentioned wanting to date, but sometimes when I talk to him he tells me how he feels like our generation isn't romantic and we're too physical (which I agree with) and talks about how he won't kiss on the first date because he wants to really get to know someone.