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Let's say that you grew up watching your dad cheat on your mom and hit her. He got his life back together, went to therepy, then you find out your mom is pregnant by another man, her stuff is gone, and she's moving in with him. Leaving you and your younger siblings ( 12 and 9) behind. What would you do?

Quan is 41 years old. He is a single parent and has a 9 year old daughter named Zaya. Zaya has always had food, a roof over her head, and decent medical insurance but when she was 16, he stopped giving it to her, so she had to get a job working at a fast food restaurant. Quan always makes sure Zaya's hair is straight. He told her she's pretty for a dark skinned girl and she'd have a lot of problems dating because of it. When Quan was broke, he was physically abusive and dated dark skinned women, when he became more stable/ rich he started dating white and Latina women. He eventually got his girlfriend pregnant. When the baby was born, he gushed about how beautiful she was and how he's going to protect her from those peverted boys at school. He even joked about how she could be a model one day because she has good hair, unlike Zaya.

He taught Zaya the importance of being strong and not needing anyone but herself to depend on when times get tough.

MY OPINION:

I would say she has (or should have) most of the say in the abortion process, because she's more affected by the baby's existence. Her body is affected dramatically, her hormones, and then when she gives birth she has to take care of the baby and feed it from her own body. A lot of women die in childbirth as well, and if she's not in a good physical condition, she has even more reasons to abort because of the risk of death or health problems.

But, then the father is also affected by the baby's existence because he has to work harder and longer and has to provide for his family while the mom takes care of the kid.
But what if the man does not want the child? Let's say he does not want to take care of a child because they agreed on not having kids beforehand, and she suddenly fell pregnant because the birth control didn’t work. What happens then? What if she says she does want to have the child, and the man doesn't?

OR, what if she wants to abort the child and the man wants to keep it?

Who has the final say in any situation? I think there should be like a legal contract or agreement where each partner has to cite their reasons as to why they want to abort or keep the child, and then let someone (a professional) judge whether or not this should happen or not. For example, if a woman has medical reasons to abort the child and the man insists and wants the child, then maybe the woman would have the final say in this scenario. But if she wants to abort because she just doesn’t feel like having another kid, yet it's shown that the family is financially and emotionally able to take care of a baby, and he wants to keep it, then the man can have the final say here.

That's just my opinion. In an ideal world that's what would happen I think.