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My ex dated me and another guy casually while we all worked together. I gave up on her because I didn't want to compete for her. Especially since we all worked together.
She didn't see any issues with that.
She decided she wanted to be with me, but broke up with me not long after because I wasn't the same religion.
We came in contact a few times, but she always took her frustration out on me. But she reached out to me 2 years after our breakup, and said she had a feeling to get a hold of me. She kept saying she was wanting to maintain our friendship, but also that she still had deep feelings for me. But because of the religious stuff, I knew we couldn't be together, so I told her goodbye and I had been in love with her, but she didn't let me go.
She shared how conflicted she was, but later told me she loved me. We made it work, I guess.
But she left on her mission, and pushed me away and didn't care about how I felt, and said it was her duty to the Lord.
She cancelled our arrangements and broke up with me. I then tried to fix things months later, and sent her a heartfelt email trying to fix things. All she cared about at that point was converting me.
She then ignored me for the rest of her mission. Then when I ran into her she blamed the whole relationship failure on me. But she still follows and asks about me to my friends and social media.
Would you care how much you hurt someone by doing all this? She hurt me so much and didn't seem to care.

I just had a friends with benefits type of fling with a long time friend. None of us want a relationship but we have a strong connection. She invited me to her place to show me "yoga" for the first time. So we talk while she is in... sweat pants.. that leads to us making out for the second time. then the bedroom.

She then called me asking me to hang out with her at 10pm. A week before, she broke off the "kissing etc." part of our friendship, and said she was going to go on a date with a guy. In other words, we still hung out intimately at her place sharing deep conversation while it was late at night... just no making out or dry humping etc etc. Just deep conversation talking.

I acted like it was no big deal. We had a deep conversation and she seemed pretty tense. She then thanked me for not making a move on her.

I just kept going on about my life. No big deal. But after the date this weekend she messaged me after I didn't talk a few days. She did well on a work project. We had a "catch up" phone conversation.

I did not even bring up her date. She alluded to it saying "I went on a date..." but I just ignored it and kept talking about other stuff without responding.

Then she started getting frustrated and said, "Grrr! I wish you were here right now with you tea! Then you could take care of me right now." She was pissed about stuff at work.

Then by the end of the phone call she started saying, "Hey, you should check up on me... I probably will feel shitty by the end of the week... Its my time of the month." Then she started complaining and saying that she wishes I could hang out with her more.

I sense that this "checking up on me" is a shit test. Is she testing if I am a real man who has a life or whether I am some poodle who rushes to her side on command? Or maybe its something else?