I just had a friends with benefits type of fling with a long time friend. None of us want a relationship but we have a strong connection. She invited me to her place to show me "yoga" for the first time. So we talk while she is in... sweat pants.. that leads to us making out for the second time. then the bedroom.
She then called me asking me to hang out with her at 10pm. A week before, she broke off the "kissing etc." part of our friendship, and said she was going to go on a date with a guy. In other words, we still hung out intimately at her place sharing deep conversation while it was late at night... just no making out or dry humping etc etc. Just deep conversation talking.
I acted like it was no big deal. We had a deep conversation and she seemed pretty tense. She then thanked me for not making a move on her.
I just kept going on about my life. No big deal. But after the date this weekend she messaged me after I didn't talk a few days. She did well on a work project. We had a "catch up" phone conversation.
I did not even bring up her date. She alluded to it saying "I went on a date..." but I just ignored it and kept talking about other stuff without responding.
Then she started getting frustrated and said, "Grrr! I wish you were here right now with you tea! Then you could take care of me right now." She was pissed about stuff at work.
Then by the end of the phone call she started saying, "Hey, you should check up on me... I probably will feel shitty by the end of the week... Its my time of the month." Then she started complaining and saying that she wishes I could hang out with her more.
I sense that this "checking up on me" is a shit test. Is she testing if I am a real man who has a life or whether I am some poodle who rushes to her side on command? Or maybe its something else?
She then called me asking me to hang out with her at 10pm. A week before, she broke off the "kissing etc." part of our friendship, and said she was going to go on a date with a guy. In other words, we still hung out intimately at her place sharing deep conversation while it was late at night... just no making out or dry humping etc etc. Just deep conversation talking.
I acted like it was no big deal. We had a deep conversation and she seemed pretty tense. She then thanked me for not making a move on her.
I just kept going on about my life. No big deal. But after the date this weekend she messaged me after I didn't talk a few days. She did well on a work project. We had a "catch up" phone conversation.
I did not even bring up her date. She alluded to it saying "I went on a date..." but I just ignored it and kept talking about other stuff without responding.
Then she started getting frustrated and said, "Grrr! I wish you were here right now with you tea! Then you could take care of me right now." She was pissed about stuff at work.
Then by the end of the phone call she started saying, "Hey, you should check up on me... I probably will feel shitty by the end of the week... Its my time of the month." Then she started complaining and saying that she wishes I could hang out with her more.
I sense that this "checking up on me" is a shit test. Is she testing if I am a real man who has a life or whether I am some poodle who rushes to her side on command? Or maybe its something else?
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So here's an update the day after... I had a busy work day. So I didn't text her. By 2pm she's texting me from work asking how my day is. she's never really textd me the next day before.
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So we talked on the phone. We are co workers. I work at an office in a different county. She said tomorrow 5/1/19, that she may be able to "stop by" for lunch with me at my office café. But she works in a different county you know?
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