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My guy (let's call him Joe) and I actually have a back story. He's in the army. We dated for a few months a few years ago, and he suddenly disappeared. He says it's because he knew he was going to be deployed soon, and didn't know how to handle it, so he chose to just disappear.

A few months later, I was seriously dating another guy, and Joe tried to email me. We texted briefly for a while, and when I told him I have a boyfriend, we stopped texting. Throughout the 2.5 years I was dating the guy, Joe have been periodically emailing me once every few months even though I've never answered any of them.

After I broke up with my ex, Joe and I reconnected. We've since been dating since August last year (2014). I'm 31 he's 33. We recently became official this Jan 2015 so we've been dating officially/unofficially for 8 months. Purely out of coincidence, we live in the same complex but in different buildings. I have NEVER been to his place and he doesn't let me see it. However he's been to my place. He's never stayed over though since we have different work schedules and it's just a hassle. By the way he's in the army.

His reasoning for not letting me see his place is that a while ago he let his coworker stay at his place (apparently the coworker was going through a divorce and had let the ex-wife take everything including the house, so he had nowhere to stay, and so Joe offered to let him stay for a while) and this coworker is over-staying his welcome, even having his mother stay over, becoming a freeloader, and therefore Joe is too embarrassed to let me go over to his place. Joe also says he's doesn't know how to "kick" the freeloaders out so he's trying the passive-agressive way, which has yet to work.

I've told him I don't need to stay over or anything. I just want to see it for myself to see that he's not hiding anything from me. We've been to short overnight trips and stuff and he says if he has another gf, would he go on tri

My boyfriend is a liar by far. However the first time we started dating I had complete trust in him, then recently I found out about some girl he cheated on me with. She said they had sex once, but in his defense we weren't dating at the time, but the rest of the time (when we were dating) they were talking through text and everything he told me he told her. They were in a relationship, I don't know who was in a relationship first, but a whole year went by and I knew she was somebody he was cheating on me with because, being a girl I stalked his fb. I know stupid, but hey I began to lose trust. Well after I found out, he began to cry and beg for me, she said he didn't even fight for her. Well, I was in Washington at this time because my sister is in the army so I hated that I found this out when I'm out of state. Anyways I'm back now, I forgave, because I'm stupid. Well now, I have a hard time trusting him, he's my first for everything and he knows that yet he took advantage of this, knowing he's a complete asshole. I don't know why guys are like this. Anyways I found out that he is liking tons of girl pics and commenting on girls pages, saying oh you look so cute, wish you were my wife, nice abs, blah blah blah. All these girls are from the Philippines, not even in the USA. But he does have tons of girl friends close to where he lives and in the city, which is where he works and I live. I guess my question is, should I not assume he's cheating? Or should I just call it quits because I've already given so much? I even stopped talking to him yesterday because he was too busy playing his game instead of talking to me, so all day yesterday and now today he hasn't messaged. I feel like I should just break up with him, but he always cries or begs me not to go and says I'm his "wife." We are both 20, well just turned 20.

Two years ago my best friend's guy told her he didn't love her, wasn't attracted to her, etc. She was heartbroken and cut all connection with him. Two years later, he found a way to get back in contact with her. Turns out he knew he had to move away for a little while due to the army and was scared he might not come back alive due to the place he was being moved to and the kind of mission he had been assigned. He didn't think it was fair for her to wait and was scared she would be hurt if he didn't make it back so he thought if he was an asshole it would make it easier for her to move on. I only know this because she told me. They are currently back together. I was really shocked that someone would feel the need to do that as opposed to simply having a mature conversation about what was going on and wanted to know if anyone else has ever done what the guy in this situation did?