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I need a guy's perspective! Sorry for the repeat post.

My ex and I are almost 17. After four months, he dumped me because he said he wasn't ready for a relationship.

I was SO SHOCKED because his behavior hadn't changed at all until the week before, when he couldn't hang out QUITE as often (but still did a fair amount) and was slightly less physically affectionate. Even up until MINUTES before the breakup he was still always texting me with interest in my life, opinions, saying good night, etc, and treating me with great chivalry and attention. I was recovering from surgery at that time so that behavior could've been out of politeness, but he'd always been that way after we became romantically involved and seemed interested in MANY things beyond my recovery.

I'm just so confused because he really seemed to be into even up to the end... but after the breakup I told him I deeply cared and he didn't either reciprocate it or deny he did too, just kept saying he was sorry but he wasn't ready (keep in mind this conversation was all over text). Maybe he didn't want to commit because we'd be forced to separate after graduation?

So either he stopped liking me, wasn't ready, or his parents influenced/forced him to end it. He's VERY DEPENDENT on them, LOVING them and allowing them to control essentially his entire life. And they didn't want him dating.

Also wanted to add that due to mutual religious beliefs, sex was never involved (in fact, he was VERY shy/nervous about affection, especially PDA around his parents. It seemed I was more comfortable going further than he was).

But if he truly still liked me, would any of that had mattered? I told him I couldn't be friends, so we've avoided each other and he hasn't had a gf in the months since.

Please be honest. Thank you!

About a year and a half ago I met a guy while my then-boyfriend and I were on a "break". We had instant chemistry both physically & emotionally. However, it didn't last long because of external factors on both of our parts. We've kept in touch sporadically over the past year or so, and recently started hanging out again a few weeks ago.
It was the third time I had seen him since (last week) and we were laying on the couch watching a movie. Next thing I know he's showing me profiles of girls on POF! I was completely baffled. I mean I don't expect a damn commitment from him but come on! I shrugged it off and we ended up in bed anyway (as much as I hate to admit it, it is in fact one of many reasons I contacted him again). He spent the night and left for work in the morning. I, of course, spent the rest of the next day trying to figure out what he was thinking.
Sure enough he calls me during his lunch break just to say "hi" and to ask what I was doing later. I had no plans and told him so, and he responded with "okay so I'll see you later?" (I was okay with this since it seemed that he was more interested in the physical aspect and I'm not looking to jump into anything at the moment.)
When he showed up later that night, he had not only brought treats for my dog (who he knows I adore more than anything), but had brought over food to make us dinner. THEN after dinner we fell asleep together, something that we NEVER do except after sex. This morning he and I went to breakfast at his favorite place, which happens to be extremely out of the way for both of us.
To make a long story shorter, I thought we were doing the friends with benefits thing since he never seemed interested in pursuing a relationship (at least not back when we met). Now he's all about the PDA and wanting me to meet some of his friends and doing sweet boyfriend-y things like making dinner and bringing my pup treats and even opening car doors!
Am I crazy or am I getting mixed signals?