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Ok so im in a tough situation im in a new relationship with this guy and things are getting a bit serious we been dating a liitle over 9 months and we made it official between us 2 months ago and now i let him move in with me. He has 2 kids from his previous relationship a boy & a girl they come over on the weekends the boy is 5 & the girl is 3 i babysit them when i get off of work for four hours until there dad get off work... i have an ok friendship with their mom i figure she doesn't like me because i can just sense it... but she's respectful and so am i but anyways she told me that they are a handful so if they get out of line to spank them... i laughed it off because at the time she told me that i didn't think they where that bad but nooooow lol they are very much so a handful and i do get the urge to wanna spank them escpecially the 5 year old he calls me racist names like a n****r, blacky pants, & calls me stupid ass, fat ass, im not even fat i guess he's just not use to seeing women with big hips and big butt lol but he ruins my apartment NEVER listens while the 3 year old mocks him but she actually listens if i tell her to stop but i tell her to stop over 50 times! I dont spank them Yet lol i got the ok from their mom but not dad they act like angels around there dad and he loves them so much he will never lay a hand on them yell at them nothing i know he would be tottally against me hitting them i rather just stop watching them so i wouldn't have to spank them but i dont want their dad thinking i dont like them and i do want to help out with his kids he only get them on the weekends i want to oneday be their stepmom but i dont know what to do. He gets really sensitive over his kids i dont want this to ruin our relationship i just want his kids to have respect for me 😩

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I've been dating a guy for a few months and it recently started getting more serious. We've always had a joking relationship where we check out other people together, and this has carried on so that I never know if were joking or serious. We never made it official and he accuses me of having another guy in my life, by saying things like "go have fun with him then." I'm so confused by his behavior. Part of it sounds like he has commitment issues or previous relationship issues but another part of me feels like he's looking for an excuse to end a relationship that doesn't even exist but he doesn't have the balls to say it straight up. Any advice on this?