When A First Date Never Happens - The Ideal Relationship

KDA20

Now it might be my age but nothing sounds worse to me than a first date in fact if you were to ask me what my relationship wish is, it would be probably to skip from the first meeting to the comfortable silences and knowledgeable glances that form the backbone of many a happy relationship. It would be one Saturday afternoon summed up by her asking "Whose turn is it to pick up the kids from soccer practice?" and me replying "Kids - Soccer practice - I suppose that makes you my girlfriend now".

When A First Date Never Happens - The Ideal Relationship

Some people love the early rush of a relationship, the passion but to me there is also the hidden variables of drama, possible relationship failure or even going back to the very start possible rejection. I often say I am shy but I am not, I just can't be bothered to go through all that. I much prefer to meet someone and somewhere along the line realise we have a connection maybe ending up in a relationship. There is a duality to my thinking with any of my girlfriends I don't think I ever had an official "First Date" but I hope I had the intention of having many "First Dates" in our relationships as we experienced many firsts together but a lot more instinctively than planned dates.

When A First Date Never Happens - The Ideal Relationship

As I say in a lot of my takes there are often a lot of people who feel different about it than me, I have no problem with that, go for it, do your own thing. I just know from experience, I am not a flirter, a chaser of women, a guy straight out of a rom-com. I am just a guy who is myself and doesn't apologise for it who is totally honest with a girl, if that is what she wants, she is in the wrong place for things like "First Dates". I tend to get into relationships by accident and thankfully there are have been a few girls who haven't seemed to mind the way I was. Before I give the impression that I am the Ebeneezer Scrooge of romance, I would be very romantic, faithful and loyal but just in my own way. I won't buy out a florists on Valentine's day but I might remember the thing she said she liked from the month before ( Remember in Friends when Chandler got Joey a first edition of "The Velveteen Rabbit" for Cathy on her birthday because he had heard her say that was her favourite book from childhood and we all went "Awwww" )

When A First Date Never Happens - The Ideal Relationship

So again I skirted a bit outside the rules for this competition but in a roundabout way - It is my take and feelings on a non "First Date" and concentrating more on the beauty of long lasting love.

When A First Date Never Happens - The Ideal Relationship
When A First Date Never Happens - The Ideal Relationship

When A First Date Never Happens - The Ideal Relationship
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  • Boomer123
    I agree with you but there is something to be said for the rush of the anticipated first date and the hopes that it will be the first of many firsts. Yes, making it last is more important than the fluttery first date jitters when "HE" finally asks you out but I wish I haven't become so old or so hurt that I can't experience that lost in the moment feeling and the OMG I can't wait, tonight's the night excitement I did when I was younger and more neive. Yes, yes, yes, he broke my heart but I do remember that first date.
    Is this still revelant?
    • KDA20

      Thanks for reading and contributing

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  • PinceNez
    You sound like a guy who's really honest, caring and direct - but women need to find that out, right? That's why first dates exist - not to prove a point but make sure the person on the other side fits the bill for what you're looking for and to - and this is something that took me years to realise and internalise - relax and have fun!!
    Is this still revelant?
    • KDA20

      Thank you for your thoughts and advice

    • maybe its because he is all that, he hasn't been married yet, women are horrible people, even the ugliest ones keep ridiculously high standards for men, if this guy can't get a woman, i am dieing an involuntarily celibate for sure

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  • LoveYouMeanIt
    Loved this - Especially the idea of experiencing "firsts" together, rather than an awkward first date.
    • KDA20

      Thanks for reading

  • MissPoirot
    Lovely, I am so happy to see you on here, you never fail to put a smile on my face.
    • KDA20

      Oh no that is a lot of pressure for the future to keep that lovely smile on your very pretty face

    • MissPoirot

      Why thank you sir, you're doing a pretty good job so far haha.

  • Victorianna
    Great Take as usual!! I always love reading your takes !! :)
    • KDA20

      Thank you for reading

  • emily15
    Very nice, touching! Loved reading it. Thank you!!!
    • KDA20

      Thanks for reading

  • bloodmountain1990
    Well first dates are about testing for compatibility
    • KDA20

      I suppose that is very true but I commented I was lucky from the point of view of my personality that in all the relationship I had, they developed out of friendships/ being acquaintances rather than official first dates.

  • justbanANNAz
    oh my gosh i love this...
    such a loss... such a shame that we lost this user :(
  • Chief16
    I love your interpretation of love.
    • KDA20

      Thanks for reading

    • Chief16

      Was my pleasure, really.😊
      Isn't everyday you see a refreshing MyTake.

  • Dylanguest1989
    You are my fave person on here sir
  • microcephalicguy
    u are not married, sir?
  • Jrizzy
    😊😊😊😊😊
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