Now it might be my age but nothing sounds worse to me than a first date in fact if you were to ask me what my relationship wish is, it would be probably to skip from the first meeting to the comfortable silences and knowledgeable glances that form the backbone of many a happy relationship. It would be one Saturday afternoon summed up by her asking "Whose turn is it to pick up the kids from soccer practice?" and me replying "Kids - Soccer practice - I suppose that makes you my girlfriend now".
Some people love the early rush of a relationship, the passion but to me there is also the hidden variables of drama, possible relationship failure or even going back to the very start possible rejection. I often say I am shy but I am not, I just can't be bothered to go through all that. I much prefer to meet someone and somewhere along the line realise we have a connection maybe ending up in a relationship. There is a duality to my thinking with any of my girlfriends I don't think I ever had an official "First Date" but I hope I had the intention of having many "First Dates" in our relationships as we experienced many firsts together but a lot more instinctively than planned dates.
As I say in a lot of my takes there are often a lot of people who feel different about it than me, I have no problem with that, go for it, do your own thing. I just know from experience, I am not a flirter, a chaser of women, a guy straight out of a rom-com. I am just a guy who is myself and doesn't apologise for it who is totally honest with a girl, if that is what she wants, she is in the wrong place for things like "First Dates". I tend to get into relationships by accident and thankfully there are have been a few girls who haven't seemed to mind the way I was. Before I give the impression that I am the Ebeneezer Scrooge of romance, I would be very romantic, faithful and loyal but just in my own way. I won't buy out a florists on Valentine's day but I might remember the thing she said she liked from the month before ( Remember in Friends when Chandler got Joey a first edition of "The Velveteen Rabbit" for Cathy on her birthday because he had heard her say that was her favourite book from childhood and we all went "Awwww" )
So again I skirted a bit outside the rules for this competition but in a roundabout way - It is my take and feelings on a non "First Date" and concentrating more on the beauty of long lasting love.
Most Helpful Opinions