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So, my girlfriend is pretty fucking annoying sometimes. I ask her when I end up getting a little annoyed, "Isn't there anything about me that annoys you?" She responds "no" every single time. I'm like, that doesn't make any sense. How can someone do nothing to annoy you ever? Bear in mind, we've been living together for 8 months. And even within that, she does not leave me alone for the barest of minutes, except when I'm brushing my teeth or taking a shower.

My thing is, look, I will try to be the best person I can be. And, sure, I will take some of your annoyances into account and think about changing that part of myself, so we can have a stronger and more stable relationship. I'm willing to go to those lengths, if it's stuff like "It annoys me when you cut me off," or, "It annoys me when you slam the doors at 3AM in the morning." Right? I mean, I don't think I'm asking for the impossible or asking her to fundamentally change "who she is". I'm just saying, "You know those parts of yourself that are narcissistic and douchebaggy? Could you... you know... work on those?"

That's not unreasonable, is it?

I’m 24 almost 25 and have had only 1 girlfriend. It only lasted about 5 months but we lived together so it was pretty intense. I really love her but she left me and we had constant problems she was crazy and it was very hard to get her in the first place and later to maintain the relationship which she eventually ended she didn’t seem to care at all after she left and cut me out of her life completely. So it just seems meaningless now. It Seemed like everything went horribly wrong. I feel it probably would have been best if I never met her. It’s been 2 years since she left and I have had tons of one night stand been to bars tons of times and it’s just getting so old I’m avoiding one night stands all together, and trying to adapt a more spiritual outlook about life. It seems impossible to establish anything half way meaningful with a girl, and I have been single so long and it doesn’t look to be getting better. Before you say anything I have hobbies, I have a good job, I have goals. I’m told I’m very handsome from many girls. I don’t have some type of overwhelming character flaw. I have gotten lots of practice with different girls and I feel I’m confident. Yet I can never meet the right girls and don’t know where to meet them. Bars don’t work, cold approaches outside of that are just awkward and typically don’t lead Anywhere. On the rare occasion I do get a date they typically ghost me. Or seem to be using me. All of the different people and difficulty to establish a basic relationship is overwhelming. I’m happy a lone but I’m starting to feel my life might flow better if I had a partner. Because I’m constantly looking for different girls it would save so much time just to be able to establish something with one I think most people would be better that way also.