Search Results: how to stop jealousy

OK, so I work in a job I hate, but there are very very few jobs in my town at the moment, but the people there are so vile and bitchy and gossipy.

They used to gossip about me and my ex boyfriend which was bad enough, but now they're trying to make out I'm promiscuous. I think it's because I'm the only one who won't engage in gossip so they naturally dislike me.

Anyway, I went out with a girl I thought I could trust but it later showed me that was a very bad judgement call. She got us both very drunk (she paid), then proceeded to spend the whole night kissing her boyfriend.

I ended up kissing his friend. She later told me in the morning that I had my leg wrapped around him when I was kissing him. I don't remember but it could have happened. I didn't sleep with him as we got separate taxis home.

However, we were both in work at the same time the next day and immediately! I mean immediately! as I walked through the door she was talking to people about me.

I must have had 5 colleagues come up to me and tut at me for kissing a guy with my leg wrapped around him. She even told the chefs who aren't her greatest friends.

She was just giggling when speaking to me and said: "What are you doing at the weekend?" My response was: "Not going out with you again" and she stopped smiling after that.

I think she knew I was pissed off. I know she's unhappy but this made me completely lose all respect for her.

Luckily I think the people who like me at work don't think poorly of me; but as I kissed another guy 5 months ago (Yeah! 5 months ago) I have this reputation as some kind of slut. I had a boyfriend imbetween for 4 months.

I have literally had sex with 2 guys in my life and I'm 23 so I know I'm not a slut. It's still horrible to go through tho when everyone you encounter regards you as a slut. I have no respect for them as people, and I intellectually know the truth about myself. I can't find a new job for the time being as I'm not gifted at waitressing (I'm gifted academically) and there are very few jobs on offer. I've luckily been accepted to university in September, so I guess it's only a few more months.

Should I confront her? She's already done it now so there's not more I can do. Of course my friendship with her is over and I'd never see her outside of work again, but I'm not sure if I should just ignore it now or say something to her about it?

I know there are other workmates who gossip about me, but I think theirs is just jealousy because I'm nice and pretty and smart. I've had it my whole life.

Just as another layer to the story, the girl actually was so drunk she threw up over the club floor! It's tempting to spread this truth in response, but I feel that would be somewhat childish.