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Let's say that the guy is single and he sees a girl he is attracted to. He approaches her and sees obviously that she is married. They enter into an affair.

Where do you feel the chain of morality was broken? And why?

This was the subject of a recent debate and I just wanted to know how others view it.

Though its a pretty cut and dry question, I did leave the option to answer anonymously if you so choose to elaborate your feelings regarding your decision.

Technically it was not cheating. She asked to take a break in December. She said she still loved me, but that our relationship had gotten "too comfortable" and "lacked romance" and that she was hurt by me dragging my feet with regards to marriage. While all that was true, she left out one very important fact: She had met somebody who had made her feel "confused" about how she felt about me. They saw each other for about a month before I found out.

Yes, "technically" we were not seeing each other at the time. But still, the lies and emotional infidelity crush me equally the same. My heart is still broken and the trust has vanished. She claims they did not have sex or become involved physically in any serious way (although, I am not sure that even matters).

Part of me loves her deeply. The other part of me hates her passionately for inflicting so much pain and throwing away our future.

My question is: Have any of you been in relationships that have been "fixed" after something like this? Is it even worth it to try?

I still believe there is something worth fixing: We are the best of friends and have so much fun together. We share the same faith, values, and political views. We want the same things in life. We adore each others' families. Our interests compliment each others'. We take wonderful trips together. We are physically compatible.

But the sweetness and innocence that drew me to her in the first place has vanished into thin air. I'm not sure when, if ever, I can look at her in the same way.

She admits it was a horrible mistake and is not going to see him. We are planning on doing "no contact" for about a month. After that, we plan to meet and re-evaluate. It was the only thing I could think of. I have no experience dealing with this and I am not sure how to proceed.