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We've been on and off for a while. I don't think he ever quite recovered from his first relationship that lasted nearly his entire young adult life, beginning when he was just 14 and ending in his early twenties. even though it's been a while, I think he is emotionally spent, like he just doesn't want to go there, doesn't want feelings, wants a "stress free" life and says I "stress him out" with relationship questions. this second time around I though things would be different because we both know why it ended before, we weren't official and he got jealous. He said some mean things about it, nothing outright insulting because he makes an effort to be a kind and caring person. after a long while of not talking again (told him not to) late night calls from in started coming in and increasing. I missed him and I thought he knew things had to be different this time or the same exact thing would happen. which it has, he can not commit, he keeps me at a distance. I ask for compromise but he says any compromise means relationship, which he can't do, with anyone. I was so surprised that he thought he could do this again, I told him I can't, he mean mean, cold, even though I was crying, and asking him to compromise and he told me "you've made your decision what is there to compromise." I told him to never call me again, I know from the past that that hurts him, the first time I said it he begged me not to. when I broke it off last night he acted cold, distant, and cruel in tone. Even beside all of this I've never had a better time with anyone and aside from this he was always so caring of me, attending things important to me, being there when I needed him. we know everything about each other. I still love him, but I can't be with some one who keeps me at a distance on purpose. I again told him not to call, but will he? could it ever be different?