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Reasons he says we could never date:
1. We just recently met and he lives like 10 hours away from me
2. He thinks we would move too quickly physically and both get hurt
3. He says he has a hard time feeling connected to people and doesn't want to end up hurting me
Because of this he requested that I friend zone him and asked me how he can act like a friend without leading me on (He's not doing a great job of acting like a friend)
Reasons I think he just wants to get to know me better first:
1. We just recently met and already hit it off super well
2. He is really flirty
3. He is always always texting me (mentioned he texts me more than anyone else)
4. He asks me not to use my phone when I'm around him
5. He tells me I'm beautiful and very obviously checks me out
6. He tells me I'm an incredibly valuable person
7. He told me he likes me
8. He kept holding my hand and playing with my fingers and looking deep into my eyes whenever he'd had a couple drinks
9. We always have really deep and personal conversations
10. Before I left he said we should just be friends 'for now'
11. We talk about how we're both not ready for relationships
12. He said he wants to become really good friends because he feels like I need him
13. He admitted to me that he has no other girls that he's friends with
14. He always says goodnight to me, always texts me in the morning and sometimes tells me to text him something while he's asleep so he can read it when he wakes up
15. He tells me when he's going to be busy for a while or will tell me why he couldn't answer me even though I don't ask

I'm 22, and I have never been in a relationship before, though not for the lack of opportunities to. I want to fall in love, I want to do couple things but every single time the possibility presents itself I freak the hell out. Like, literally being terrified of the prospect, dreading to reply their texts or to meet them, and a general feeling of anxiety that pervades the very air. Even if I was interested in them before, I just suddenly stopped being interested. When this happened, I used to avoid the guys while dropping subtle hints that I wasn't into them anymore (or at all, when I realized they liked me) but they never seem to really get it and things drag on for weeks before I finally tell them straight up. Lately, I think I have gotten better at it and quit this avoiding mentality and be upfront and honest to guys but I'll still feel terrible about hurting them. A close friend has also told me that because I'm well cute, and always so friendly, guys are attracted to me and I kind of end up leading them on even though I don't mean to (and I'm friendly to everyone in the same way I swear). Recently I got drunk and lost my v card to a guy in a one night stand. Or at least it was a one time thing on my part but I think while I was drunk I might have led him on and I heard from a mutual friend that he's feeling really sad right now after I told him that I wasn't into him that way. (To be honest, I was attracted to him and he was really nice and sweet and considerate but also he seems to be a playboy and I don't know if I want to commit and truthfully, the crux of it is that I'm just terrified of things becoming serious). What is wrong with me?