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So this is a touchy subject for me but it's something that bugs me a lot, I'm only 20 and I've never had a girlfriend I was always social and most everyone liked me but I grew up in a small town with VERY limited options, I only went for a few girls seriously and they all shot me down, anyway my father passed when I was 18 and being the only I stayed home to save money and be there for my mother (and honestly because I don't know what to do) anyway to add insult I lost most all my head hair to a condition after dad died, so I have to shave it bald, making it very hard to approach girls. And lately me and my mother have been arguing about a few things and she told me now that I'm bald I should lower my standards, that a bald guy shouldn't set out for a beautiful looking girl and should take what he can get. Now that dug deep, mom apologized but still I'm worried it's true, I do have high standards on looks but I only want one girl in the end, and I'd give her everything but I need that attraction physically as well or I couldn't do it... just being honest, call me shallow or not I believe that a strong physical attraction must be there. True attraction in not universal but I think some characteristics like being overweight and baldness are generally turn offs. And like I said 20+no hair+ always been alone makes me feel like mom was right. Why would an attractive girl date the 1% of guys with no hair at 20? So girls be brutally honest here, my father was and I always appreciated that-is a very young guy who's bald able to still keep his standards and go for/get what he is interested in? Or is it enough of a turn off that he should accept any girl who could get past it? Sounds dumb but I won't settle either way I just want to know my odds here, and Please don't turn this into some moral debate about looks not being important and just focus on the question, I admit looks matter so if they do to you I understand.. And before anyone says I'm too worried there is evidence girls don't like it: https://twitter.com/baldismwatch

I'm just curious to hear what everyone thinks of this. I've been seeing this opinion thrown a lot on this site and it's... Interesting, to say the least. I've heard people on other's question that said you should "lower your standards" because most people tend to date other people that are in the same attractiveness level as they are. Do you think this is true? Would you think a not good look guy/girl could ever get the really good looking guy/girl? I know there's SOME that are able to but I'm talking about MOST PEOPLE.