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A friend of mine who I know for about 2 years now. Our friendship has not been smooth at times. Not hanging out on a routine base, not picking up my phone calls or responding to my text most the time and do not return calls, which he never really calls/text me. I saw that he hung out with other people during holidays where I was not even invited. I talked to him about this situation few times and expressed how I feel like I am the only one caring about this friendship, he got a bit upset and said I need to stop saying that and that he enjoy spending time with me.

He had told me that he need some space and I can still call him (I probably won't because he won't answer or call back) and said it is unhealthy for him to get all the texts and calls that he did not respond to and he still cares about our friendship. He said no when I told him if he wants me to leave, I will. It has been a few days since we talked/texted and I felt refreshed. I feel like i moved on now, as I do not think this friendship is going anywhere.

I do not think he will call/text me as he has always been- it has always been me going to him and got ignored most the time. I am not sure what would be a good way to politely decline his re-approach to me should it happen, or should I even leave or wait.

So, last week on Tuesday, I was doing my normal testicle exam that I try to do one or two times a week. I noticed that my left testicle was at least double normal size. Beings I already had a doctor's appointment the next day, I figured I'd bring it up with my doc then, if it hadn't gotten better.

Wednesday rolls around, and the swelling is up more and I figured that I for sure had cancer. No matter what was going on, I knew that the testicle had to come out. If it was twisted, it'd be close to dead. If it was a tumor, it'd have to be removed before it could spread.

When I brought it up, my doc was noticeably concerned and she ordered an ultrasound, and told me the sooner is better. I went immediately. I'm not wanting to draw this sort of thing out. I had the ultrasound, and they rushed the results. I had been home maybe an hour and my doc calls to tell me that it is a mass that had virtually replaced my testicle. Well, okay, saw that one coming. Now what?

She referred me to a urologist that she knew has experience in treating testicular cancer. I got the call from the referral on Friday and scheduled my appointment for this Tuesday, two days ago. Went in, swelling was up more. And the urologist confirmed my symptoms are in line with cancer. He said in roughly all cases involving my symptoms, it's cancer. He set up the surgery for the next day, Wednesday, yesterday.

So, I went in, had an inguinal orchiectomy (testical removal from upper groin to ensure complete removal) performed. And now I'm waiting for more results. I am putting this out there so that more men catch this as early as possible. It's 99.9% curable. The remainders are generally people that wait. Go in. It's scary. It's embarrassing. But it will be okay and should be taken care of as soon as you possibly can.

We need to more actively teach young men how to do self exams and work toward normalcy, just as we have done with self breast exams with women (check yours too fellas).