Search Results: staying friends with an ex

My boyfriend and I were sitting next to each other with our phones and a message popped up on mine from a group of girls that were trying to organise a hiking trip. My guy asked casually who I was chatting to and so I told him, he wasn't controlling or anything just curious cause the phone kept going off every few seconds

I said to him out of curiosity just because I'm nosey lol - Who was the last person you messaged with other than me?

He said Melissa. (Melissa is an ex girlfriend who he was only with for 2 months about 2 years ago. They stayed friends since then as she had supported him with some personal issues he was having back then, so I can understand why he has kept a friendship with this particular ex.)

They never meet up physically and only message each other every now and then. He showed me because he must have sensed that I was feeling a little uneasy. I could see they only message each other a few times every few weeks and their is absolutely no flirting going on. She knows about me and he has asked her to come over with her kids for a BBQ and to meet me so there are no secrets floating about.

When he said he last messaged Melissa I casually asked how she was, he said she is okay, going through a little bit of a hard time and he passed me the phone and said to read the messages so I did. She drives trucks for a job and there were messages about how she had recently had a truck accident and was out of a job, feeling a little depressed and now has to go to court for it. He messaged to her that there may be an opening for a truck driver job at his work and that he would try and help her get in at his work.

I did ask him if why he felt he needed to help her and he said she is a friend, I'm just being nice. I asked if he still had any feelings for her and he said NO and then I asked if she got a job there they would be seeing each other every day at work, is there a risk of them becoming close again, he said NO. Should I be worried

which would you rather receive from an ex? which would make you want her back the most if you dumped her?

1. “Hey, I just wanted to thank you for going to the library with me the other day, I just mailed the forms😊 I hope you’re doing well!”

2. *snapchat of something that reminds you of them*

3. “hey how are you doing?”

4. “hey, i just want to make sure you’re positive you don’t want me around anymore, because i know i wasn’t treating you right, i want you to know i’m sorry and honestly it was cause i was nervous around you too, i wasn’t being myself. it takes time to get to know someone and be comfortable. i felt the same way, everything was a little rushed i just couldn’t say no to being your girlfriend the last thing i wanted to do was hurt you. so if you’re definitely not going to want to be with me i understand, it’s okay, but if you wanted to we could even just start being friends and see what happens, and if we just stay friends or not then whatever i won’t pressure you into anything cause i’m not even sure how i feel about the situation i just see you as a nice funny guy that’s been hurt and deserves the world and that’s something i can’t pass up so easy, it’s hard to find a guy who is just a great guy these days. i feel foolish asking this because if you wanted to be here you would, but i thought about the situation throughly and realized i wasn’t doing anything but making the situation worse.”