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so my guy glamorized about his ex.

Yeah he said he had an amazing relationship with her and they are still friends.

-He lied. They had only a sexual relationship, she used him as a tool for sex while she was out f***ing other guys.

-She treated him like he wasn't even there, didn't listen to him at all

-She used him for rides, money, sex etc

At first when he glamorized her I felt really "threatened" that I could never replace his memory of her. I got really mad and I wanted to break up and always said to him "yeah, she wins, she wins and I lost and her memory of her is better, I just want to leave now, lets break the f*** up, I"m sick of trying to be like her and trying to win you over"

but he says I have no one to compete with, I shouldn't be threatened. That he hates her. But then why did he say she and him had a perfect little relationship? Why did he say he and her did all this sexual stuff and it was so this and that... why did he rub it in my face that she was like this and that, and why did he want me to be like her? Because she wore his clothes all the time he wanted me to wear his clothes. Because she wanted the on top position all the time he wanted me to have that position all the time. Because they had sex with strawberries or in the car, he wanted me to do that too. He said it is like learning to ride a bicycle and once you learn it that way then that's how you ride it. WTF does that mean?

and then he said he was sorry he didn't marry her... WTF does that mean?

And she dumped him because she was cheating on him with multiple guys for about 9 months or so and he waited an waited and she didn't come back. She is now with someone new for the last 6 years... and he didn't date anyone until me... and what does all of that mean?

The real question is: Should I feel threatened that his memory of her is going to always be better than any with me? Should I just give up and stay with him but accept the fact that he will always love her and not me? But he says I love you a lot to me, but is it fake? I always ask him what does it mean and he doesn't explain it... What does it mean? sorry this is so long!

oh and by the way I never glamorize my exes... if they cheated and me, I tell right away, if they treated me bad I tell right away... the guy has no need to feel threatened or competition whatsoever with me...

I like it that way more... what do you think?