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My boyfriend and I met almost 6 months ago. He had been married and has 4 children with his ex. I have two children of my own. His breakup with his ex was a bad one. Children are caught in between. I try to explain to him that it's important to keep the children out of this; that they do not need to know what is going on between the two of them. Things seem to have gone better between him and his ex. Which, to me, is a great thing for the children. He's been asking me to move in with him, which at first was a huge no no for me. Then, my feelings about it has changed. We get along great. I'm totally in love with this man. He's a wonderful, caring and loving boyfriend. My kids love him. The only thing is, for me, If i'm going to invest myself, my heart, raising his four children, bringing my children into this relationship, i want some kind of commitment. His answer is, "It's too fast". He says that he's not ready for it. As I explain to him, I don't want this now or next year. Hell... I'm not saying i want to get married in 2 months. I simply want to know if down the road that we could make a commitment. His answer is.. he's now confused. I don't believe it's that hard of a question to answer. I'm broken by his answer. But thank God, I would rather lose him than be with someone that doesn't love me enough to give themselves completly to me. I would raise his 4 kids but he cannot commit to me? Am I stupid? He loves me enough for me to raise his children but not enough to commit to me. MMmmm. I'm thinking. Please tell me what you think. Am I the only one who sees this as a big RED FLAG? I understand he was married. It may scare him but I'm not his ex. I LOVE HIM with all my heart but I'm simply not that stupid. GUYS, please tell me why you would say that to a woman that you say you love. Fill me in. The sex is great. The relationship is great. I love his children, they love me. My kids love them. What is the issue?