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I'll just state facts about what has happened between me, and my boyfriend to let you guys decide on if we should continue it or not. We have been dating for a couple of years. Initially, he lied to me about many things because he felt like he "had to" because his previous relationships weren't good. He doesn't "remember" when I try to discuss something that has happened in the past either, like yesterday I was trying to talk about an issue where I asked him for a ride but he declined saying his car was unavailable in the moment. So, we just took my car and shortly after parting ways (we don't live together) I see a girl post a picture of him, her, and another girl in the backseat of his truck on social media taking them to the grocery store. He said he "had to" take them because he didn't want to be rude since they were already climbing in his car (which I later found out that him and that girl had a romantic relationship I didn't know about until recently since he never told me when I asked). He even gave his jacket to another girl saying that it was just out of friendship/kindness.

He gets upset/jealous over one male friend in particular, and I had to stop talking to him just to make my boyfriend happy which still didn't work because my boyfriend gets upset whenever I plan to see the opposite gender anywhere doing anything because it's "unsafe," and even tell his mom to tell me not to go if I was determined to. I'm just not sure on what to do or how to go about this relationship because I have tried to be as patient as possible. What gets me mainly is the fact that when he confessed about all of his lies, he didn't have an exact date/plan on telling me/coming clean. What do you think? Is this relationship toxic or what? The only "wrong" thing I have done towards him was having to be flirtatious to men at my retail job so they could sign up for the credit card which is what the company determines on who they fire.

My mother used to meddle too much and gossip bad things about my boyfriend. She literally made others believe he was using me for sex. He talked about him as if he was the worst guy ever. Her best friend at the time (an older woman who was also my friend) died years ago. She died believing he was using me for sex, for my virginity.

The reason he got upset and visited me less was because one day my mother herself said ''don't come, my husband's friend and relatives are coming over for a whole week, you can come some other time''. He close to my house already and he felt excluded, hurt and offended. So he got upset and then my mother got upset at his reaction (him not coming over anymore) and started gossiping endlessly about him. Then she insulted him on my b-day, issued him a false apology over the phone and continued being a fake person for years. His friendship with her was a falsity for years.

Only after her health started getting worst and this pandemic not going away, she started softening her stance and has accepted him by now. I told her the real version, which she questioned why I never spoke up for him. She wouldn't have listened. She only started listening to me now. It took him a long time (years) for him to finally forgive her.