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I've been with him for nearly 2 years
And I know he's into Asian girls a lot
All his 3 ex girlfriends are Asians

So anyways, he has 2 jobs now
First job as an assistant
And second job as a 'security'
I was supposed to see him few days ago
But he said he was too tired from work all day and night
So I said its fine.

So today, we decided to see each other
I came over to his place
Then when he was in the shower, his phone buzzed
It was a message from his phone carrier
So I went back to all his messages

Then I saw a message from an unknown number from few days ago
And it was from an old guy
He sent a picture of himself
And it was blown conversation with him and my boyfriend

This was the conversation:
Old guy - hey sexy, do you like my picture? Lets have some fun tonight
Boyfriend - hey so do you like crossdressers?
Old guy - yes
Boyfriend - me and my friend will come tonight. Do u have the hotel ready?
Old guy - yes just come and dress up at mine
Boyfriend - ok
Old guy - I can't wait to fuck you

And then boyfriend didn't reply

I confronted my boyfriend when he got out of the shower and I started crying:
Me - what the fuck is this? ARE YOU GAY?
Him - what the f is that? I dont know how I got those messages
Me - DUDE. Its your phone!
Him - I dont know how I got them? Its not for me.. I dont know this guy
Me - this is fuckin disgusting.. I dont know what to believe
Him - I can't believe you think Im gay...

I dont know what to believe?
What the fck?

Girls, have you experienced this?

It's so annoying, most girls who I'm friends with, they can easily find guys who just want to be friends with them,
and their guy friends never try anything creepy on them.

~~ It seems like a lot of guys can't treat me like a normal friend, instead they either show interest, or get pervy/creepy... or they bully me,
so i end up wanting to avoid most the men i come into contact with, cos they make it really awkward!! I can never win! 🤯🤯

But whenever i talk to a guy, in a friendly way (of any age, he could be 14 years OR 60 years old),
they automatically assume that I'm interested in them? 😷
Then they get flirty, turn the conversation sexual, ask for my phone number & they make me SO uncomfortable!!

.. And whenever an older man (40+ years) randomly tries to talk to me or say hi, i keep a straight, serious face, and i just listen to them out of politeness but i give them short blunt answers (trying to hint that I'm not interested)
... then they start complimenting me (i give a confused/creeped out face back) and they try to get my phone number / ask me to hang out with them... then i say "no, im not interested sorry".
It also makes me feel there's something wrong with me if mostly older men (the same age as my dad) are asking me out. 🤢

So I matched with this guy two weeks ago. He’s 4 years older than me. He’s very intelligent, didn’t talk about sex, and seemed to wanna get to know my likes and interests and play 21 questions. I got his phone number and we texted and he texts back right away. We also video chatted a few times. I’m pretty shy and not that open. I’ve been having trouble with friends and needed someone to vent to and vented to him (mistake one I think that scared him away). I also vented about how I didn’t like my family that much (mistake 2 my parents yell a lot and are overbearing). We wanted to hang out on Saturday but I kept giving him the go around because I wasn’t sure if I wanted too. Friday night he said he got a text from his sister and will have to cut the convo short (it was a video call) and there was a family emergency that he won’t be around all weekend for and he’s upset about. I asked if he wanted to reschedule on Saturday - still no answer. He also unmatched with me on the app - not sure if it was recent or not but still. I don’t have the best self esteem and it shows. He isn’t mean or anything and was being polite but I was very vague in my question responses and there was a lot of awkward silences that entire hour we video chatted. We also stayed up until 3 the night before (Thursday night) video chatting and it was still awkward but not as awkward on Friday. I was tired and kinda bitchy and snappy about my friend. The guy hasn’t responded to any of my texts. I don’t know what I did wrong but okay. He said I seem like I wanna open up but I’m scared I might scare him away or something and he doesn’t bite lol and told me to have a good night and try to have a good weekend and he will talk to me tomorrow (Friday going into Saturday) and he never did. He genuinely seemed curious about my likes, dislikes, interests, music tastes etc and thank god not once did he mention sex or anything sexual and I’m so happy about that but still I don't know where I went wrong.