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I was dating this guy for about 4 months. I’m 20, he’s 19. Things were generally going very well. We became exclusive early on. He broke up with me about three weeks after officially becoming boyfriend-girlfriend. That was about a month and half ago. He said that he wanted to be friends, but that a relationship wasn’t desirable for him right now. That sounded fine at the time, but I realized that I still liked him as more than a friend. He also said that he was still attracted to me.

Anyway, we live near each other and have seen each other quite a bit since the breakup. We’ve spent the night.. and have been intimate. I feel like that muddied the waters a bit. Though we’ve broken up, he still acts like a boyfriend. He isn’t actively seeking dates and says that he still likes me. It’s like he partakes in the responsibilities of being a boyfriend, but does not like the title at all.

We had a conversation today. At this point, we had decided to be just friends (ie no sex), but to be open-minded to what the future may hold. I’m just wondering if people ever go from relationship to friends back to relationship. The pessimist in me says that if it didn’t work then, it probably never will… but life changes things, maybe it could work.

What say you?

I thought I was over this guy, I really should be it's been 3 years since we've dated. But, I recently had a dream with him and I fooling around. The strange things was I was/am not really attracted to him. I became attracted to him, because of the way he treated me. I was starting to fall for him, which is why I asked him to be my boyfriend. He said no because he didn't seeing too far with us and honestly I didn't really eithier.

We only dated a few months, but it was the longest things I've ever had. I was upset when we ended things, he wasn't officially my boyfriend, but we were "exclusive." I didn't really know this at the time, but there was one summer that I was getting over him and did some stupid stuff. I think I was kinda hoping he'd stop me. I did also thinnk he was gonna realized he made a mistake and ask me to get back together with him. I thought this, because we were hanging out just about every single day and if I didn't see him he'd text or call me. (Part of the reason we hungout everyday was because we were on our college campus and there weren't many people around, but also we were just close) One night I was sitting on the couch and he was laying down and he put his head on my lap and said, " I miss this" and I said, "I miss this too." Probably a month later there were a few days that I hadn't heard from him. Then I foundout on Facebook that he got a girl friend. I was just about heart broken and cried like crazy.

I didn't hear from him for a while which makes sense, but sucked. Then during the school year we started hanging out some more. But we'd pretty much only hangout during the week or weekends his girlfriend didn't come up. We were still pretty close though, my friend would tease that I was pretty much his 2nd girlfriend. I thought that his relationship might not last too long if they didn't have sex. He takes sex pretty seriously so I knew that if that happened they would date for a while. One night we were drinking and he was kinda bragging to his guy friends about having sex with his girlfriend. I was kinda upset and drank a lot. I also didn't realize how many shots were in my glass. Anyway, I ended up making out with his roommate that night.I pretty much thought I was over him after that point.

A couple years later I did something kinda mean, but I think it was to push him away. I tried to be friends with his girlfriend but she was so shy and kinda snobby so I didn't end up becoming friends with her. Then I thought she said some rude comments (which my friend ended up telling me that it wasn't true) I told him that I didn't like her and we talked about it and was still trying to act civil towards her.