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First off: I am an attractive girl, guys tell me a lot that I am hot and the guy in question has also told me that on many occasions.

I've been trying to establish with that guy who has been one of my very good friends what we are to each other (as we started to have sex recently) and whether or not we should start dating.

We are very very close and we get along great and we are attracted to each other (he said so himself). However, whenever the topic of relationship comes up he gives me all these weird reasons why he can't do it: he is on anti-depressants, he thinks he is a loser, he thinks I can do so much better, I've dated all these amazing guys in the past etc. etc.

... and that he wants us to be friends and that I should find myself an awesome guy like the awesome guys my friends are dating.

I told him yesterday that I just can't go on like this and if he doesn't want me that's it - I'll need time to get over his rejection.

The only reply I got is: "Be happy, I'm not a happy guy. Dilemma, no?"

What is this text? Does he want me to CONVINCE him to be with me? Reassure him that I think he's great? Why not just tell me he's sorry and end of story?

So lets make this short. Ex bf was smart, dressed nicely, and polite. He also ditched me a few times but he is actually a very busy student and he usually apologized. I also made the mistake of treating him badly at first though he still cared about me. Now, we remained friends and he knows if he is ever too stressed with life that I am willing to spend time with him. We barely talk except on specific days where he will randomly go up to me.

He usually responds to my texts (I send about two a week or one a week) asking if he is okay or questions about our homework. He did ignore one text where I invited him to my best friend’s party. He tends to look at me and doesn’t talk to me unless I talk to him. He broke up with me bc he was too busy for a relationship which he kinda was.

He acts cold to all his friends (including me bc he is usually very tired) unless I make him smile or laugh (which I’ve been able to do) or his best friend, Jason, play Skyrim with him (which occurs very rarely). I still hold feelings for him; don’t know if he does for me though. He broke up with me a month ago. Before then, we had great dates and were very close then his work took over and he got cold. We are 17. No sex.