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I spent $900dollars in good quality clothes in a matter of 3weeks...

i just made another order of 97 dollars today aside the 900 previously spent and I’m pretty sure I’m gonna make another 75+ order tomorrow...

its good quality clothing and I’m saving a lot!

In every order I have 30$ coupon, which is what’s convincing me to order every time and that’s aside the clearance discount so it’s about 45 dollars in every order that I’m saving.. sometime more.

for example 48 dollar pants that are of high quality I’m getting them for about 15-17 dollars..
I got about 5 so far.. that’s just one example..
a 59 dollar sweater im getting for about 18-27 dollars.. etc etc...

would you lose lose interest in someone like this?

Im scared to even share this information with anybody in fear that I might drive people away..

when I had my boyfriend, I had to stop saying when I went shopping because the times I would tell him, I wouldn’t never think anything of it until one day he said I stress him out whenever I told him I spent a lot of money in little time...

so after he told me that I would hide it...

and before I knew that I was always excited to tell him what I bought and for how much...
I never knew this type of thing would matter or affect others.. :/

is this an an issue for most?

"The symptoms of dependent personality disorder primarily include a need to be taken care of and a fear of being abandoned. This leads the person to engage in dependent and submissive behaviors that are designed to elicit care-giving behaviors in others... The person fears they can’t live their lives without the help of others.
Individuals with DPD are often characterized by self-doubt & tend to belittle their abilities and assets. They take criticism and disapproval as proof of their worthlessness and lose faith in themselves.
They seek overprotection and dominance from others. Regular activities of daily life may be impaired if independent initiative is required. They may avoid positions of responsibility & become anxious when faced with decisions. Social relations tend to be limited to those few people on whom the individual is dependent."
https://psychcentral.com/disorders/dependent-personality-disorder/symptoms/

"A pervasive and excessive need to be taken care of that leads to submissive and clinging behavior, as indicated by 5+ of the following:
(1) has trouble making decisions without excessive advice & reassurance from others
(2) needs others to assume responsibility for most major areas of his or her life
(3) has trouble expressing disagreement with others due to fear of loss of support
(4) has trouble initiating projects or doing things on his or her own (because of a lack of self confidence in abilities)
(5) goes to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others, to the point of volunteering to do things that are unpleasant
(6) feels uncomfortable or helpless when alone because of exaggerated fears of being unable to care for himself or herself
(7) urgently seeks another relationship as a source of care and support when a close relationship ends
(8) is unrealistically preoccupied with fears of being left to take care of himself or herself"
https://behavenet.com/diagnostic-criteria-3016-dependent-personality-disorder