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This may seem like an odd question. I get how we all want to be accepted and appreciated.

I've been reading lots of discussions here and many of them are from girls who want to know whether a guy likes her or thinks she is hot. I feel for them. I know how it is to be really dependent on what others think of me. I remember being bullied as a kid and thinking "why do they hate me?" and internalizing it as "there must be something wrong with me". And then I woke up to the fact that "OH, maybe there's something wrong with THEM!" And since then, I haven't given much of a sh*t about what asshole guys think of me. I seek the respect of people who show me respect, not from people who show me disrespect.

It breaks my heart to see so many girls adjusting their appearance, their ways of being, their sexual behavior, based on what sexist dudes want from them. And, I know plenty of women who don't. So I'm not meaning to imply, in any way, that this is something "all" girls or even "most" girls do. I'm wanting to learn from you on this.

Any insights into this? Do you feel like you need to modify yourself in any way for guys who don't respect women? To what extent is your self-esteem bound to what guys think of you, if at all? Do you feel you have a healthy respect for yourself? And if a sexist guy wants you to change who you are, what do you tell him, or what do you do?