Why Won't He Stay The Night?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing this man off and on for three months. I understand that he most likely doesn't "understand HOW" a relationship works but he agrees to learn. I'm patient...Anyhow, we are currently becoming intimate and he never wants to go on dates, hang out with my friends or his friends (I hang with guys and chicks), he's always at the club, and most of all: He NEVER spends the night! Every time that he's been over he's never asked if he could and when I did offer he always had to go before midnight. For the first time, he stayed PAST midnight two days ago.

Also, this evening, before he came over, we were on the phone. I jokingly said that I was "being bad" because I was playing a joke on someone but I didn't tell him WHAT I was doing. Right after he left the gym he was on his way. He brought my fave candy when he got to my place and seemed playful and wanting to be intimate...Shocked the hell out of me: He got to pulling off my clothes then thought it was FUNNY that he led me on and all of a sudden had to LEAVE. I played it off...

*You don't mess with a WOMAN'S hormones like dat...NEVER.*

What the hell is going on here? I know his living situation is uncomfortable *he lives with his father and I have YET to see his living space because its a complex for geriatrics* I KNOW he's not married or living with a girlfriend, but his behavior? Its just plain odd. He was recently laid off and I've offered to do his resume and help him with his job search. Am I getting played? They say go with your gut instincts...

Please help!

[Anonymous]

He could have a partner, if he does could you smell her...he could be a player nothing you can do about that, try and find out about past relationships, sooner you find out the better, talk to him about it. That's the best way communication, if that doesn't work try other things, look for info online, emails, Facebook, MySpace etc, past relationships, takes time to get to know someone, if he is paying you, he will slip up and you will find out, on the other hand he may be a decent guy who is a little quirky and he might have some potential, how do you want to play it, innocent till proven guilty or you get some hard evidence.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn't want to sleep in the wet patch...

[Asker]

LOL I CANNOT stop LAUGHING at this!!!!

[Opinion Owner]

I bet you intiate sex on his side of the be so you dont....we know these things...

[palek]

I went through something not dissimilar. I couldn't take it anymore, and finally broke away. Two weeks ago, the woman was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Could be his noggin. Maybe not, of course, but it's a possibility.

[Anonymous]

Some people prefer if their partner didn't stay, sleep is better, so maybe he is thinking of you, don't have to sleep in the wet patch, maybe he snores and doenst want to keep you awake, or might try for some more later on...

[Anonymous]

:S

Maybe he still has to live by his fathers rules, ie not passing nights away :S

maybe he needs to go back to take care of his old man?

why don't you ask him, in a nice way?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is a radical feminist, if a woman has the right to say no and change her mind at the last minute so can a guy, fair no?

[Anonymous]

He likes playing head games, and he is messing with your mind, looks like its working ...