I don’t trust my boyfriend and I don’t know why? His phone is off at night?

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My boyfriend tells me he loves me everyday but I DONT trust him and I just don’t know why. I’ve gotten no proof of anything apart from his promiscuous past ( But I had one a bit too so I don’t judge ) everytime I wake up I just get this feeling in my heart and throat that something isn’t right? He hasn’t done anything wrong? Like last night he had to cancel as he said his little sister is sick and she wanted him to stay with him and for some reason I just don’t believe it? I just think he’s out cheating because that was his past before?

He always says I love u before cutting the phone but he also always likes females photos on Instagram and stuff and I just DONT trust him. I love him though I don’t want to break up with him? But I genuinely don’t trust him.

Sometimes his phone is off at 11pm and he dosent answer or puts it on do not disturb. And I find it so suspicious. I just cry everyday because something feels so wrong and I have no proof? Is it not suspicious we make plans then he won’t call me to let me know and his phones off during midnight? I’ve NEVER been a insecure woman with my partners, so I feel as though because I feel like this there must be Something wrong.

A few of his ex’s once told me he’s a narcissist and a serial dater and cheater with proof but I just ignored it. If he really is a narcissist then he can say he loves me without meaning it I guess?

far2gud4u · Accepted Answer

I always say to follow your gut in this scenario. He obviously knows what to say to get a woman onboard with him (ie the I love yous) what I will say is that you also have no reason not to trust him. Trusting his ex's who have motivation to make you feel insecure is a bad way to go.

Ask how his sister is but not the next time you speak and listen for his reaction. If he goes quiet for a bit he is wondering why you are asking (if he was lying) and if he was telling the truth will have no reason to think about his response. Liars have poor memories and will always get caught out.

My old lady advice is this: Give him the chance to lie once but not twice. If the first time he is found out, challenge him. If he does it again then he isn't worth being with. If you have no trust though you have nothing that will see you through tougher times. You can have superficial trust (where you say you will trust him but not deep down) and it seems like this is what you have with him for some reason. Ask yourself why this is the case and if it is your problem (ie. listening to people you shouldn't) you can work on it but otherwise you need to speak with him and maybe move on.

AllAloneInTheWorld · Accepted Answer

I personally wouldn't think anything negative with someone having their phone off at 11pm. I mean most people would turn their phones off by that time because they want to get some sleep. I know someone personally who switches their phone off by 7pm each night and he is not cheating.

Regarding your question, I would say trust your gut. Especially if his past girlfriends have told you what he is like. If one girlfriend was only saying that about him I probably be thinking she could just be saying those things but since it sounds like all of his ex's are saying the same thing. I would end things with him

OfMiceandMen · Accepted Answer

If I was in your shoes, I think I would test him. Do you have a girl-friend that he does not know very well?

If you do, tell him your away on a Friday or Saturday night and send your friend to his local watering hole to see if he's there. You can do the same for her someday.

She can keep an eye on him and see if he gets frisky with anyone or decides to leave with someone else.

There's nothing wrong with testing him, if he's a good boy, he'll behave, and that will give you some reassurance.

You have to protect yourself these days and your life is valuable, why waste time on someone who could potentially be dragging you along in what he calls a relationship?

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

You don't need "proof" because the decisions to be made with not be made in a courtroom. "Love" - if that is what you feel - is not enough to make a relationship work. I good relationship requires lust, love, trust, and respect. If you lack any one of those, your relationship will likely not survive.

You don't trust him and that doesn't seem like it's going to change. Do you want to be in a relationship for the rest of your life with someone you don't trust. You've grown accustomed to him and there are good parts that you don't want to give up, but you get the bad along with the good. It is your choice to make.

coachTanthony · Answer

I would not worry about the trusting him and concentrate more on how you feel about the relationship. Sounds like it's not for you. Don't try and create an excuse of possible cheating when you simply just aren't happy. Move on.

Finchie40 · Answer

Dump him , if you are hearing his ex girlfriends say he is a narcissist and a cheater , they are more than likely telling you the truth , and the fact that you can’t trust him is a clear indication that your gut instincts are telling you something is off , then more than likely your gut is telling you the truth , , he is turning his phone off at night because he is
Clearly hiding shit from you , don’t fall for that nonsense , kick him to the curb

Nikki1989 · Answer

My husband and I both turn our phones off the second we arrive home from work, so 4pm or earlier, so I wouldn't worry about that too much. Not everyone is glued to their phones 24/7.  However, there are obvious trust issues here, so it might be best to bail on him at this point. If your gut feeling is saying he is cheating, then he probably is.

Christoff92 · Answer

You know every guy would be on their phones especially on social media that include Facebook, what apps, Instagram, etc. Assuming his battery runs out. Those sites kill your battery capacity. Just to let you know 😏

humanearth · Answer

Would you trust me, I never even owned a cellphone of any kind.  Plus I plan on dying on never owning on.

TooHot2Care · Answer

So many girls on this site keep having this problem and I keep telling y'all the same thing. Either kidnap him or talk to him!

itsalyssaagain · Answer

That’s your gut feeling. Eventually the evidence will come to you.

LiamJHayden · Answer

You have to figure out what you want. For me, if I don't trust the girl, even if it seems to be irrational to others, I still end it.

nawtee_me · Answer

If you can not trust him there is no relationship. Relationships are built on trust.

In_Trance · Answer

What are you even doing? Break it off and go your separate ways

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Seems like you have trust issues

DermalPunch · Answer

Trust your gut

I don’t trust my boyfriend and I don’t know why? His phone is off at night?

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