Why do guys always assume I'm a slut?

Anonymous
I am not trying to sound stuck up, im just simply telling how it is. So, I think i am pretty attractive. People tell me i look beautiful all the time and i know I'm not too sore on the eyes. People always describe me as shy and sweet since i always apologize for everything (bad habit). My first boyfriend of 4 years always accused me of cheating whenever we argued. I never did. He would say things like: "yeah i know you slept with 30 men you whore". I only ever slept with him and lost my virginity to him.

Fast forward to a year after we broke up. I had not slept with anyone because i simply dont want to have sex if It doesn't mean anything. There is NOTHING wrong with sleeping with whoever you want its just not something i like to do. So, for the past few months I have been casually dating my coworker and we had sex multiple times. I told him it means a lot to me and he is the only person i have been with since i broke up with my ex.

I told him about some health issues of mine and i did that because i trusted him. Suddenly, he would make excuses why he can't hang out anymore. turns out he wanted me to take an std test. i told him he could have just said so and i would have gladly taken one. However, i also explained that the chances of having an std are minimal since i have been intimate with only few people. what hurts me now is that i feel like he doesn't trust me and that he thinks im dirty or something. He literally said: you never know since you didn't get tested. To clarify: im not upset that he asked me to get tested. im upset that he didn't and then pretended like im gross and made me feel bad.

This happens with many guys i meet. even other colleagues. they will make jokes about how i sleep with guys every weekend and it upsets me because its not true. Just because i look good and men are often interested, it doesn't mean i am as well. I dont want to be seen as just some sex object. why does this keep on happening?
Why do guys always assume I'm a slut?
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