Everyone thinks I’m a slut?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know know where start
But i just fck up big time yesterday.

I was texting this guy but he seemed too clingy so I just blocked him but then he started making up rumors and everyone in my city and his friends who used to be my friends hates me and think I’m a slut.
I then tried texting him if we can figure it out and if we can try again, in hope that he would stop the rumors but he just took screenshot and send it around and said he rejected me.
Then here comes the even worse part
My friend who had something going on with this guys found out he was with another girl. Then I tried to find out who the girl was and I simply just send him a request on Instagram to see who he followed. But then he started texting me and i just started asking question if he was the guy I used to see in the bus, cause I wanted to make sure he was the guy who did that to my friend. But then he got mad and said he had a girlfriend and I was like ‘yeah okays that’s all I needed to know’ and then he was like ‘you needed to know what’ and i was like ‘I just wanted to know who the girl was’ and then he got mad and his girlfriend started texting me and threading me and then they send screenshots to my brother and the guy I was texting who Was clingy. And they send the screenshots to every guy in that friend group who hated me. I didn’t know he was friends with them. Now so many people have blocked me and they are spreading rumors and fake profiles saying that it’s embarrassing that I have been rejected by so many guys and that I’m a slut. Now everyone in my city (small city) thinks I’m a slut. And the guy I was texting who was clingy also blocked me and all his friends. I feel like my life is ruined because everyone is believing those rumors and I just don’t know what to do. I lost so many friends because of this situation. I’m devastated and I just feel so lost and depressed and disgusting. They really made me hate myself and even my own brother hates me now. What do I even do now?

[Anonymous]

You need to stop worrying about what other people think about you.

You haven't lost any friends, friends dont act like that.

This is all ridiculous soap opera drama, you clearly dont like your life being this way so stop interacting with people in this way.

Rest assured that the vast majority of people in the CITY (there are precisely zero small cities in the world) in which you live dont have the faintest idea who you or any of these other people are and could not concievably care about anything less.

The only real problems in this thread is that when you decided you didn't like the guy you just blocked him instead of telling him he was too clingy, for you.

Then you thought getting involved with someone you dont want to be with to try to silence rumours was a good idea?

Congratulations, that was the worst idea you will ever have in your life, its all up from here on out.

So just fucking calm down, have a cup of tea and stop engaging with this bullshit.

[Asker]

I told him the Day after i blokkes him, Why i blokkes him.

And i know i fckd up so bad with even getting involved. I Regret it so much, but regretting it won’t fix shit

[Asker]

Blocked*

[Opinion Owner]

Blocking him wasn't a requirement at all, he wasn't harrassing you.

The only thing you ever have to fix is yourself, all the time you allow other people to define your emotional state you are going to have a bad time.

[Asker]

He wasn’t harassing me No.
But whenever i didn’t answer him in 10 min, he would Call me constantly until I picked up and he would get mad if I even looked at a boy and he told me to just ghost every boy I have ever known. Even my guy friends. Notice we had only been texting for a week, A WEEK.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, alright, fine.

So he was harrassing you then but why would you then want to get with him?

In any case you need to calm down and stop letting all this immature facebook type bullshit bother you, stop involving yourself in it.

[TonyV]

Your under 18 right? I know this all seems like a big deal now but I promise you it isn't.

They are just calling you a slut to hurt your feelings, their words only have as much power over you as you let them.

A slut is a person who has sex with many people, you haven't so you aren't a slut.

Also even tho you aren't one, a slut isn't really even a bad thing to be.

I dont know why people seem to feel better by making others feel worse but that's all this is.

And about your "friends"
You didn't loose any friends, real friends would not believe rumors and cut you off based on them, I know it sucks now but you are really better off without those people.

You will make new friends, better friends, you're young and your life has just begun!!!

[Thatasianlove16]

Girl these people weren’t your friends anyway if they are gonna just listen to rumors. Drop them restart. Time will come they will see you thriving and that’s when you call them out infront of your friends. Trust me it makes people feel like shit being called out for being a follower especially when they see you doing good for yourself

[iFarted]

The world is a lot bigger than your small city, your life definitely isn't ruined. It may suck for a while before you can move but you'll be alright. Think of it this way, are they truly your friends if they're so quick to drop you?
"friends" who dropped you over rumors that you're a "slut" aren't really your true friends.
Who ever remains by your side and support your now are the ones who really matter. Fuck the rest of them.

I don't get how they say you're a slut if "every" guy rejected you.

[Asker]

The worst part is everyone thinking of me like the Girl who always gets rejected

[iFarted]

Why does that bother you so much when you know it's not true?

[Asker]

It makes me question myself. And i just feel embarrassed

[iFarted]

It's okay, I'm probably being a little too logical when it obviously emotions are there and that can't be helped. It's only natural.

With time things will chill out and you'll be alright. Try not to let it keep you down.

[virgin20]

You know that you aren't, that's the important part. He's just hurt you didn't like him back and wanted revenge which isn't nice to see.
The best reaction is no reaction, if they see you get wound up by it then they'll think you're acting defensively and it's true. If you act like you don't care then they'll get bored. And if people come up and ask be honest about it without getting over dramatic and hopefully the situation will ease for you

[Liam_Hayden]

Ignore them, avoid their drama, focus on your future, and bail on that dumpster fire of a small town at the first opportunity.

[Wise4myage]

You know who and what you are, so don't let rumors affect you negatively. I now live in a small city and I am beginning to find out what Its like.

[gandolph3]

just try to put it behind you, live your life, move on, hold your head up. i f questioned about it don't let it get to you, tell them he wanted sex you said no so he started the rumor, and let it go

[CYNICAL_CRYPTIC]

Maybe everyone that shouldn’t matter.

[AFellowWeeb]

what rummors? too much text and nothing said

[Anonymous]

Its ok