What should I do? I dont know how to feel?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of three years broke up with me. He said he was unhappy. The last year was rough. I lost the man that raised me. And I had difficult periods of grief which would sometimes affect things. But he was always patient and understanding, which always gave me motivation.
recently was a tough time too. And he told me, its okay, he's holding my hand through it all. Like we always did when one of us is having a hard time. because of this hard time. My libido was low. But the night before he left me, we spent time together finally. Just me and him. It was enough to bring a spark in me and dedication to be me again. I wrote him a letter. I poured my heart out to him. And I felt happy for the first time. I was going to make changes for me, him and us. But it was too late. I felt embarrassed though. How can you leave like that, after spending the night with me? You seemed happy? Why didn’t you tell me before we spent the night? I felt so silly and gross, I can’t look at my body or myself in the mirror. My sexual trauma as a child, I couldn’t give myself to guys. He’s the only person I gave myself too. I trusted him the most.

it hurts so much.

[pink_and_inlove]

I think that you need some closure of some sort or else you’ll always feel bad. I feel like I’d ask him why he broke up with me I feel like you should ask him because you’re just blaming yourself when it’s not even your fault I bet that you were a great girlfriend

[PrettyPriya]

That is just heartbreaking to hear. I'm so very sorry that he left like that. It really is quite strange to do that after your wrote him and spent the night with him.

I, nor anyone else, can tell you how to feel. You just have to work your way through the grief. Maybe leaning on friends and family during this time would be best.

[Asker]

I didn’t get the chance to give him my letter. He told me, after I finished writing it. Now he will never know.

[PrettyPriya]

Damn. That is really sad. Truly feel for you. My warmest thoughts. You'll get through this.

[Asker]

Thank you. I decided to give it to him.
He reached out

[PrettyPriya]

What happened?

[Asker]

He told me that he just needs me happy again. And to find myself again. And once I do, he will be waiting for me, because I’m his person…

[PrettyPriya]

Not sure you are the one that needs to find themselves. He broke up with you! Maybe he needs to find himself before you make a decision. Just my observation.

[Asker]

Yeah I think maybe just, we need to give each other some space to feel okay again. and come back once we’re both in a better place.

[PrettyPriya]

Good plan! Wish you the very best. ❤️

[Tstrbrainer]

I suggest you give him that letter anyway

[Asker]

Do you think so? I’m scared to do so.

[Tstrbrainer]

Don't be scared of a guy who spent the entire night with you.

Just give him the letter as it is, telling him that you intended to give it to him just before he ended things between you guys.

Or you can ask a friend to give it to him.

The reasons for him breaking up are vauge, and I don't know what you wrote in that letter.
But if you wrote what's in your heart, at least he'll know what you were experiencing

[Asker]

How do I approach that?

[Tstrbrainer]

I don't know, ask a friend to help.
But I really suggest that he read that letter

[Asker]

I gave it to him.
He called me.

[Tstrbrainer]

What did he tell?

[Asker]

He said that he loves me and will always come back to me. And that he knows I’m the one for him. But for now, we just need some space to find ourselves again.

[Tstrbrainer]

That's good. Maybe he needs to relax.
All the best

[bestfriend69]

Would you like to talk?

[Anonymous]

Have you considered therapy?