Search Results: trust issues with boyfriend

I’ve always been single until recently. I’m in the midst of something new. At least I think I am. He says we are exclusive. But I have a hard time trusting guys and have given him a difficult beginning in reference to my trust issues and general doubts. He seems to be willing to work with me so far. But I don’t want to scare him away.

Anyway, he told me that he likes my independence and lack of necessity regarding having a boyfriend. He believes, as does my mother, that I come across as a type of woman that does not need a man to be happy. However, my grandmother believes I am insecure and need a man to be happy. Which hurts me. Because I fear this may be the truth. However, I have gone 23 years being “single” and did not settle for any guy that just showed interest in me. Do I sound desperate?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months. We are not living together at this point. I know he would like to but I'm not ready for that just yet. He actually moved in with me about 3 months into the relationship. We ended up breaking up after 5 months of living together and him moving back to his other place due to a big issue we had and one which broke my complete trust. We were broken up for approx. 4 weeks and have been back together now say 6 weeks.

His mother his coming from overseas to live in June (another 5 -6 months) and she will be living in the house he rents. Upon getting back together with each other I did explain to him that due to the severity of the initial relationship issue which caused my trust to plummet to zero that I wanted to take things more slowly this time which includes dating each other for a year before I would consider another living arrangement. That would mean we would revisit this at the end of this year.

Today he suggests we give the living together thing another go in six months time when his mother arrives and can take over the rental. I told him I wasn't ready for that to happen so soon and I still wanted to give it the rest of the year to see how our relationship goes. He then said to me that if I don't want to live together by the time she arrives that he is going to look for a new place to live on his own and that he isn't prepared to live with his mum and then if he does take out a new lease it means it will be quite a while before we can ever get to that point of living together.

It sounds to me that he is rushing me along to suit his predicament with his living arrangements with his mum and I really feel that he is pushing for this because of his situation and convenience for him.

I suggested he would only have to share with her for 6 mths until we got to the end of the year and surely she can't be that bad too be around but he isn't happy about it.

Opinions?