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The question itself is simple, but I will add my personal reasons for fearing the institution we refer to as "marriage".

First and foremost, I do NOT fear commitment, in fact I crave it. I want a life partner and I want the love and security of always having someone to come home to. In spite of that, the prospect of marriage terrifies me.

Marriage is, in the modern world, inherently misandrist. That is to say, it discriminates against men. How? The laws that govern marriage often swing in the woman's favor, particularly when it comes to ending a marriage. The law will, more often than not, grant a woman a significant portion of man's wealth and assets should a marriage be terminated almost arbitrarily. There is no stipulation that she should earn it. There is no stipulation that the divorce should be his fault. There are virtually no stipulations at all. A woman can, and in fact some do, marry a man for his money and divorce him to run off with it.

Children only add insult to injury, where a family court is much more likely to award custody to the mother, creating more weekend dads who are still obligated to pay child support, on top of whatever alimony the civil court has already slapped on the ex-husband's shoulders. That effectively means a woman can run off with your children and live with them like a queen on your dime. Not a very pleasing prospect. There is yet another disadvantage to having a penis in a marriage relationship. A woman can marry one man, have an affair with another and get pregnant, and then have her husband raise a child that isn't even his without his knowledge. In fact, even if a man does discover that the children he has been raising are in fact not his, and wants a divorce, he is STILL obligated to pay child support for children that are not even related to him by blood. This is true even if the "father" wishes to relinquish all of his parental and custodial rights. This phenomena actually happens so often that there is a name for it, paternity fraud. Never mind how hard a marriage can hit your wallet. The emotional and mental trauma that a woman can inflict upon a man via the marital system is absolutely atrocious, and to top it off the law will actually aid her in that endeavor.

So given all of this, my fellow males, ask yourself this question. Are you afraid of marriage?

Ladies, feel free to contribute as well, but keep the conversation civil. Uncivil responders will be banned.

and allow it periodically? Do you think people should just accept the fact that we're not perfect and allow cheating to happen once or twice in a lifetime together? I'm not saying encourage it but realize together it might happen and be prepared to deal with it if it does happen?

I've never even been in a serious relationship so I haven't ever cheated so don't hate me yet lol. I'm just trying to be real.

My grandfather cheated on my grandma a few times during their lives (they were together for 50 years before he passed) and for the last 20 years they were the sweetest couple ever and you couldn't imagine them without each other. I honestly think my grandma made the right choice staying with him and he was truly sorry. I've also known married women that slept with my guy roommate because they were somewhat bored with their husbands but they still loved their husbands and ended up ending things with my roommate after only a few sleepovers because they felt guilty and were still raising kids with their husbands. There is no doubt in my mind if these women don't tell their husbands they'll happily grow old together. Why not just realize temptation happens and allow your partner two or three get out of divorce moments per lifetime?