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I am from an Asian family but we have been living in Europe for a long time. My boyfriend is european and has a slightly different culture to me. I love my boyfriend cause he makes me so happy and he has been there for me during the really hard times while my parents just ignored me. I also love my parents cause without them moving here i would have never met my boyfriend and they raised me. They do so much for me but lately we just have different opinions about everything which affects my depression too.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 9 years now, so he asked me to move in together with him. I honestly loved the idea especially cause we are discussing about marrying someday and would be nice to see if we are able to live together for like a few months to a year before we decide if we want to get married. I feel like it would really test our relationship cause we have been in a distance relationship for like 4 years now.

However my family isn't happy with it cause they are very worried about their reputation in the Asian community around here. My father has many friends whose children are getting married now and my parents don't even like my boyfriend cause he isn't an engineer or a doctor and he isn't Asian. They want a husband for me who can take care of me and have a high status in the community so that they can show off just like the way they did with me. They mean well in what they have been brought up with but my perspective has changed cause i am a lot more open minded and my boyfriend is a forensic scientist and currently im studying clinical psychology so i can't take time off to get married within a few years anyway.

That's why I am so confused in what to do? I really want to move in and try it out with my boyfriend but i don't want my parents to just cut me out of their lives because of this. Plus I know i can't be in the middle and have to choose one or the other some day.