Why am I not a feminist you may ask? I believe in equal pay, equal opportunity, equal rights across the board. I even think, overall, women are stronger than men. Maybe not physically, but mentally and emotionally, yes. I think that sexual harassment is a real issue, sexual assault is a horrible crime that needs to stop, and I do understand the overwhelming majority of victims of sexual harassment and crimes are women. I fully understand that.
So, what makes me not a feminist? The Webster Dictionary def-..... yeah yeah yeah no one cares. That's over the top hacky and stupid. Every feminist with a blog does that horseshit. I'm not going to do that. But, feminism is supposed to be a movement for equality among the gender. "Feminism" the word implies to me that in order to be equal, we have to fight for women, because they aren't treated equally to men. And actually, for the most part, I kind of agree with that.
So, for the third freaking time, why do I claim to not be a feminist? Because of the fact that there are men who are not being treated fairly because of the fact that they are men.
How does that happen? Well, turn on the television during the day during the work week. Talk shows hosted by women like The Talk, The View, these shows where women are usually the hosts, the overwhelming majority of the audience are women, and an overwhelming majority of the guests are women.
These women jump up and support women who were battered, raped, assaulted, cheated on, all the terrible things that happens to women. I'm 100% on board with them doing that, too. Yeah, lets call out the piece of shit men who do these things.
"Hey, Brewmaster531, you aren't getting to the point!" Alright, alright. Sorry. The issue I take is, there are men who are wronged, too. And I'm not talking about the whole "hey, men are raped and assaulted and sexually harassed". Most people know that. My thing is, men are wronged in the sense that they get wrongfully accused. Not all of the claims against men are false, not most, not half, not even a quarter. Not even 10% of the time are they false. But nonetheless, false claims occur. That's no secret. It may be a small amount, but they happen. But you know what doesn't occur? Major coverage of these false claims.
When a women is attacked, she and her attacker is on the news for weeks, major day time talk shows talk about it, bloggers blog, vloggers vlog, GaGers ask questions and give MyTakes (this MyTake isn't in direct response to any incident, just something that was on my mind). I have no issue with that. If a man is a piece of shit that beats, batters, assaults, rapes, and is physically, sexually and emotionally abusive, he deserves the worst of the worst. But, when a woman falsely accuse a man of these things, there is a much different response by the media and the public as a whole. There isn't any major vlog or blog, there is at most one news segment for 5 minutes about it on the news, GaGers don't ask questions or give MyTakes, and these talk shows don't call out the women who lied or bring on the wrongfully accused. This is why I'm not a feminist. This is unequal, unfair treatment towards men.
You will have a rough day if you suggest a woman has falsely accused a man of one of the previously stated crimes. Everyone jumps down your throat if you suggest that she may not be telling the truth. I've read many times we should never assume she's lying. I agree with that, but we've also been told we should believe her the moment she says it. I don't agree with that. I believe in this situation, we need due process (is that how I'm supposed to word it? I don't know, sorry). But, forget about due process, forget about the legality of it all. My issue is how we cover these issues. We don't. We do not address those who have been falsely accused, at least not for a very long time. We don't see the talk shows bringing up the fact that there was a false accusation.
If feminism made it a priority to make sure the wrongly accused were covered in the public eye and the one who made the false accusation was held responsible for what she has done, I would be a feminist. But the fact is, no one holds the accuser responsible and no one gives the wrongfully accused an opportunity to tell their story.
Feminism also doesn't address women taking advantage of men. They don't address that we've made an over correction in which now instead of letting men get away with doing terrible things to women, we don't hold women responsible for their actions. Take for example this story
The woman in this story cheats on her husband, doesn't tell her husband, gets pregnant with the man she's cheating with, her husband doesn't know better, thinks the kid is his, and plays daddy to the daughter he thought was his. But then, it's revealed he isn't the father. The man doesn't want to pay for this kid's child support and the real father and woman are together. But because he already signed up to be dad, he cannot get out of paying unless the mother agrees. The state has said that if he doesn't keep making payments to the mother of not his daughter, he will go to jail. Now, this is an issue that needs to be brought up to congress so that this doesn't happen anymore. But, why isn't stuff like this covered all over the place? Why doesn't this issue get a spot on 60 Minutes? Why don't those laides on these talk shows address this issue? Why don't feminists who claim to be FOR EQUALITY of the genders cover this in their blogs and vlogs? Many people claim that this isn't that common, but the truth is, this shit happens all the time all over the world and it's never covered.
Another reason I'm not a feminist is because I don't agree with their tactics of getting their way. Constantly playing victim. That's all I ever see feminists do. They play the victim. That's what these blogs and vlogs do and that's what these parades and marches do. They are all about how women are treated poorly. I agree, that needs to be addressed and handled and legislation needs to be made to end it, but if all that is being done is playing the victim, nothing gets done. Do something. Those who participated in the force to end slavery did something other than play victim. Those who fought for women's rights to vote did something other than play victim. Those who fought for civil rights did something other than play victim. Those who fought for gays' rights to get married and adopt did something other than play victim. And this isn't a feminist thing, it's a generation thing. For whatever reason, millennials (I'm one, too, I know I'm no different) like to play victim. Somewhere along the line, someone showed millennials you don't have to work for change. You only have to complain that it isn't fair. That's not how change works.
I agree with the majority of feminism's philosophy. I know that in some areas of the western world, women are treated differently just because they are women, and that should not be the case. Women should be paid equally, they should have equally opportunity in the workforce and on every corporate ladder, and their rapists, harassers, and abusers should be punished severely and I do think far too often men who commit heinous crimes against women aren't held accountable severely enough. But, I am not a feminist because of the way women who wrongfully accuse men aren't held nearly as accountable as they should be by the media and the public, the men who are wrongfully accused aren't accommodated enough, women who use the law that is sometimes skewed in the favor of women to their advantage and leaving men to be unfairly taken from, and the feminist movement seems to be more about complaining than it is about actually moving towards a goal.
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