Disclaimer: The following points are a generalization of modern feminism a.k.a third wave feminism. I know not all feminists apply on this nor on the stereotypes.
Feminism started as a good thing back in the day when women had no voice. When women just used as a birth givers, it was acceptable for husbands to hit their wives, women where no allowed to study, women were discouraged to go to college, when rape was acceptable, when women where not allowed to vote, not allowed to divorce when needed... But now that we have the same rights as men do and are free it seems like women ran out of things to complain about.
Women in first world countries don't need feminism. Even in most 3rd world countries women live in peace, unfortunately, unless its the Middle East or they are in a very low economic class. Believe me: I live in a 3rd world country. That is a whole other story. Those women need help and to fight for their voice. That said, here I wanna talk about what feminists mostly in the USA and Western Europe fight about.
As I said before, it is like they ran out of things to complain about. Manspreading? really? what the hell is that? In case you forgot, men have -something- between their legs that makes it uncomfortable to have legs together. Its not cause they wanna oppress you.
I don't deny biological differences between men and women. The truth is men are more likely to be physically more strong than women. Yes yes there are exceptions. But you can't deny men achieve physical strength more easily. And women are more sensitive. yes, I know there are sensitive men too but it is true we are more likely to be more nurturing and these feminists seem to not want us to embrace that. I think there is nothing wrong about it. in fact I think its beautiful. Generally, men also provide for their families that is why they want to do great on their jobs, meanwhile women make different choices on the workplace, they choose lower paying jobs, and that is when we arrive to the other issue: Wage gap.
The wage gap has been proved false a lot of times. It is true that on average women are paid less than men. But it is not for the exact same job. It is not for the exact same hours. Those statistics are ignored. Even if they have the same job women are more likely to take more days off for their period pains, because we get pregnant, etc. It has an awful lot more statistics about it and its a complicated topic and I would need a whole new mytake to explain this. So I found this article that has both sides of the myth explained if you wanna check it out
To continue on the biological differences and gender roles, history plays a good part here. For centuries even when humans were not civilized and there were only tribes, women were in charge of raising the babies, taking care of them, and making a home, and the men went out there to hunt for food, provide, and protect their land so their family can be safe. both are important roles and were not born out of nowhere because men hate women, but because that is their nature. Even animals have gender roles!
I agree there is nothing wrong with breaking them, if the woman wants to work that is perfectly fine. And that is what we should be thankful about! There is no law saying she can't! Why are they still complaining?
Feminism hates traditional and family values. all the ideology that not having kids is empowering and makes you free and that it is a social construct from the patriarchy they made to oppress women. It is not. First of all, no one is forcing you to have kids. There is no law telling you to have kids. And they degrade women who want to get married, have a family and even more those who want that and be a stay at home mom. Why? What if I want to be a housewife? Is that so bad? It is a double standard. They say women should be free and they support a woman's choice but when a woman's choice doesn't fit their agenda and is a traditional decision they say its ''internalized misogyny'' and shit.
Also, there is no such thing are rape culture in the west. Men accused of rape get their reputation ruined and their careers can be affected. Sometimes even if the accusation was false! Rapists get sent to jail. This leads to my next point, where feminists say that when police and the judge asks for proof its ''victim blaming'' and they don't believe them. It is NOT that! Rape is a crime. And like every crime(robbery, murder), it needs to be proof so the accused is punished. Specially since most countries have this law of ''innocent till proven guilty''. That is not victim blaming. Also, they say that when we say rape can be preventable is victim blaming. The truth is MOST rapes can be prevented! Again, even if it could have been prevented doesn't mean the rapist won't get punished. But we can avoid being drugged, watch out drink and not drink too much alcohol, carry safety supplies, and be ready. No, we can't teach rapists not to rape. Rape is bad, and they know it. And you know what? They don't care. That is what makes them bad people and criminals. Just like serial killers. We can shout how murder is wrong all we want but a serial killer will kill people happily.
Story time: When I was a feminist I went out for a run and I was wearing very short shorts. there were a lot of men out there, builders, etc. And my father saw me and begged me to get in the car I refused to do so. he later told me that I should not wear those shorts again if I wanted to go out for a run in that street. I flipped out and was like it is not my fault blah blah blah teach men not to cat call I'm only 16 blah blah they are to blame blah blah. Which is true, Cat calling is gross and of bad taste but no man with education does that and even if its rude, its far from oppression. Anyway but now I look back and think that my dad said nothing wrong. He was just looking out for his teenage daughter. He knows its not my fault and if I'm ever sexually assault he wouldn't blame me. He would KILL the rapist. But as any parent, he would rather have their child as safe as possible. He knows rapists don't care its wrong, they will do it. And by the way those were in fact very short shorts you could lowkeysee my buttcheek when I was walking LOL.
Also, men are more likely to suffer assaults on the street like murder and physical harassment, being hit, and robbed. Yes, women are more likely to be raped on the street (if we count rapes on jail men get raped more) and that is sad. But saying ''I have the right to feel safe on the street'' Yes you do but unfortunately as I said before there are people who have no problem breaking the law and violate your rights. Men can't feel entirely safe either on the street. They can be assaulted. Murdered. Well women can too hah, but yeah statistically men are more likely to.
Feminism makes women less feminine and beautiful. We can't deny most feminists are ugly. They self mutilate with lots of tattoos, piercings, bad haircuts, and unnatural hair colors. And most are also fat. Cause there is this sub-movement in feminism that is fat acceptance. But that is another topic, I already made a mytake about it.
They seem to not want other women to be happy. What if I wanna stay in shape, keep my hair long, wear light makeup, wear dresses, and high heels? Internalized misogyny? What if I wanna work out to look better? They start making up stories on how we oppress ourselves.
They glamorize being a hoe and have unprotected sex. Then they wonder why they don't want to give abortions to them. Because they abuse of it. Acting like a whore and expect others to not call you out on it is pathetic. Yes you can sleep with anyone you want the times you want. No one will stop you, go ahead. But then don't complain when people call you out on it and men won't take you seriously.
They are destroying chivalry. I freaking love chivalry. I love when a guy tries not to curse in front of me, when they hold the doors for me, when they let their protective instinct out, when they insist on paying for a date, give flowers. The small things. But if women become man haters, self mutilating, and whores how can men act like this? If you don't respect yourself how can you expect others to respect you? Respect is not given is earned.
What is it with how they say society over objectifies women yet they do shit like this?
Also the whole no you make me a sandwich thing? What is so bad about making your boyfriend a sandwich? Or even a meal? Yes I get it it is ridiculous when men use this to shut a woman up on an argument lol and there is bad history of men saying women belong in the kitchen. But one: learn to take a joke. Two: There is nothing wrong and oppressive about cooking for your man.
If anything, feminists are the one who make things harder for women. They convince them that they are a victim, that men are evil, that wanting to look attractive is self oppression, that working out to look good and eat healthy is to basically surrender to society, and that being a doctor, president, lawyer, or engineer will be harder as a woman cause there is this secret club of patriarchy that gather to make your life harder. They search for problems where there are none.
Ever since I quit feminism I became more happy. I started taking care of myself, I stopped seeing misogyny where there wasn't (F.E: back then, once my dad asked me for a glass of water and I was like ''is it because I'm a woman!?'' oh geez), and overall, I was happier. I love men even more now.
So to conclude: Im not a feminist because it contains a victim mindset, classless and ignores facts.
I repeat: This mytake has generalizations on how feminists look and speak. But the truth is most do.