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I do believe the "birds of a feather flock together" principle and is true. I honestly don't care how my friends look but I find that certain personality/lifestyle types dress a certain way and I base friendships off personality and lifestyle. I want more friends because my social life is lacking. I lost contact with a lot that changed in college; we no longer click nor do they want to be bothered.

In class, I hardly see girls who dress like me around. I a few on campus and I'll compliment their outfit but I'm not sure how to initiate friendships with a stranger. It's like all glammed up or plain jane and I feel stuck in the middle.

I try to befriend girls who dress similar to me or way more casual since I feel comfortable around them and usually have similar personalities. Unfortunately they are often mean to me.

Girls that dress nice try to befriend me. I'm talking stylish where guys are all over them and try to talk to them! Guys still act like I'm invisible unless I talk to them first.
I don't dress up as much as them so I don't get why they want to be my friend. I'm always skeptical because I feel like they're being fake. I tend to judge and assume them as "mean girls" and think that they want me to be their *D. U. F. F. Sometimes I find out later these girls are kind and have personalities similar to me so I feel bad to have wrongly judged but I can't help it.

This is how the girls I try to befriend dress:


I'd say their style is plain jane and tomboy that's how I use to dress.

This is how I dress nowadays:


I'd say my style is simple/causal and cute.

This is how girls that try to befriend me dress:






I'd say their style is girly/dressed up and hot.

I love their style and wish I had the guts to wear hot outfits but I'm too self conscious of showing skin.

And I hope you men didn't think I'd leave you out of the "shallow" party lol This is part 2.

Again, we all want a partner that is attractive AND has a good personality. And though women are reluctant to admit that they want an attractive partner, men aren't as reluctant. However, they still get labeled shallow. Many people who think that you are a monster for not asking out large women, or hairy women etc because you don't want them.
I feel that this is mostly a male issue because guess what, men are the ones who mainly approach/ask out. So they get the heat for not asking out the "Ugly Betty" or "Plain Jane."

So, yes I understand why men are, in my opinion, unfairly labeled shallow monsters for only approaching women they find physically attractive.

That said, do you think it's shallow to approach/ask a complete stranger out just because you find him or her attractive? If yes, why, if no why not? And do you think it's wrong?

Personally, again, I do think it's shallow, that's the dictionary definition of it, HOWEVER not wrong. Despite what all these "holier than thou" types would like to have you believe, you need physical attraction AND attraction to the personality and you can't really "overcompensate" in one area to make up for the other. It's human nature, and I don't know. I just can't believe how much shit people give others. Of course still be respectful to others, because just like you want an attractive person that you're approaching, they want someone attractive too.