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Me and my husband have been married for a year and a half now but we've been together for three. When we first got together he was fun romantic and outgoing. Now he is none of those things. Its hard for me because i am very outgoing i love to socialize but he's a true introvert. I think he did those things just to impress me. He doesn't try to romance me not even for sex its just "take your clothes off" and sometimes a more rude "open those legs" like eww that is in no way shape or form sexy. I've been dealing with this pretty much for 2 and a half years. But on the other hand he wants me to do allllll the tricks in bed when he barely do the minimum. The other day he said just eat your oatmeal in the bed while i "get it in" like um selfish. I am never satisfied and he doesn't try to satisfy me. I've given him lectures i even wrote a 5 page paper how to satisfy me in bed and out he doesn't listen. He never surprise me and take me out. After a long day of work if i say babe my feet hurt can you rub them, he would literally do it for a minute and its unfair because i rub his back for at least an hour each night. or at least i use too. there's so much more/ But long story short he's an awesome father and friend just a terrible lover. He does always have my back and is there for me. But Im not attracted to him anymore and don't find him sexually appealing especially due to the fact that sex to him means no kissing or touching just put it on in there. -_- He does nothing to make me feel special like how id think a true husband would make his wife feel. I surprise him with candle lit dinners after a long day of work and i don't get any special treatment. As a result I've found myself yearning to be touched or to feel special like I'm the only one in the universe. I stare at the guys that come through the office. Its pathetic. However I'm the only family he has and i don't want to leave a good guy for reasons that may not be justified. please help! hope it wasn't too long

I've been friends with benefits with this guy for 8 months. During this time he would tell me nice things and always say Im his best friend, that we have the best sex always, etc. Sexually we were perfect but we never hung out, he never let me sleep over, he never answered my booty calls (we only had sex when he wanted), and he never acknowledged me in front of his frat. I eventually tried to talk to him about. He mostly talked and I sort of agreed because I was afraid of loosing my friend. We continued to have sex, but I was never really satisfied with the conversation. A couple of weeks after our "talk" a friend that hangs out at the frat house told me that my friends with benefits was going around telling his brothers that I'm an easy f**k, showing them my nudes, and telling them all the private stuff we do in the bedroom. He would tell his brothers that he would make me do certain things and afterwards get me to leave. Basically he was trashing me behind my back and spewing lies to my face. My friend told me that the older brothers think he's being an asshole to me and that they feel horrible. He made me the laughing stock of an entire fraternity. I was always genuine with him and he took advantage. He doesn't know that I have all this info. I'm sure he will booty call me sometime soon. Should I use it as an opportunity to call him out or just ignore him? What is the most effective approach?