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There's this guy. He's nice, but he's very stubborn, Persistent, and when has a crush obsesses over her, and tends to fixate on one subject and only wants to talk about it. He used to have a crush on my friend for a long time (Tends to fall in love fast) and now that he found out that she doesn't like him, about a day later he started liking another girl, me. The only problem is I don't feel the same way. How do I let him down easy? My friend let him down easy and they were best friends before, but now that he knows that she doesn't like him, he refuses to talk to her and even told her he doesn't want to be friends anymore! He keeps saying "I can't get over it" and says that he doesn't see her as a friend. It's really frustrating because I still want to be his friend, but my friend and him used to be best friends and did everything together until he found out that she doesn't like him and that she has a boyfriend. I don't want him to shut me out entirely because I'm not interested in him in that way. So what should I do? Pretend I like him back so we're still friends (Even though I like this guy who lives a couple of cities away and he likes me back) or Tell him I don't feel the same way and lose him as a friend. Or should I do something else? Help! He said he wants an answer by next Monday or any time next week.

This is way too long of a story to tell (last 3 paragraphs say the most), but basically, my best guy friend liked me in high school. We dated a bit and then agreed we should be friends. It really seemed mutual. We remained close friends, I dated other people. He was always there. After I broke up with that guy my friend Alston started acting different around me... like hitting on me. I picked up on it, but knowing his track record with girls I figured he was just flirting to flirt. He kind of flirts with anyone... and he's sort of known to be a bit of a player... but never has had a gf?

Anywho, he tried to kiss me and do some other things and I'm not that kind of girl so I said no because we weren't even dating... and I was never sure if he just wanted to get some action or if he really liked me. It was never clear!

Eventually we sort of got together... stayed up all night talking, cuddling, didn't kiss though... held hands... acted like boyfriend/girlfriend minus the making out... I went back to school and it was really evident that I liked him. He ignored me.

I finally confronted him one day and he said it was all revenge for not liking him in high school and that he was just using me. That we were close in high school but weren't close anymore. Where did everything suddenly change? It was very sudden. He said he was going through a bad time and used me to bring himself up. Those are all words from him, written, on paper.

I was heartbroken. I lost my best friend and had no idea.

I told him we couldn't be friends... I mean, how could we? he used me etc etc. He begged and begged, sent me love songs (?) and then later on said those were songs that he figured made me think of him (?)

We stopped talking for several months, but then I realized I was probably hurting him more by NOT talking to him at all.

We've been "trying" at friendship since then.

When we are together, he's very cold, doesn't have much of a sense of humor and VERY judgmental about my life and what I am doing. He ALWAYS asks about guys... and then gets annoyed.

Last time we hung out he asked me all about the boys in my life. I had just been dumped and I was sad. He was trying to be nice... and then he said, "you're just fixated on relationships because you have nothing better to do." What an awful thing to say... especially when he prodded me for answers when I didn't want to tell him. Then he showed me pictures of girls he wants to hook up with. I told him there was a guy in college that I am still close with and he and I had talked about marriage. My friend Alston just completely flipped out! He said there was no way I could know already.

Anyways, I talked to my friends about it and they all said he sounds jealous. I had no idea what to think. I just thought he was being rude the whole time. He kept ASKING about the guys in my life and then had to shut all of them down. AND he showed me pictures of girls? So weird!

What do you guys think?

Sorry that's long.